July 5, 2024

In the journey towards manifesting love, many of us hit invisible walls that seem insurmountable. We may try various methods to attract the right partner, only to find ourselves repeating old patterns or feeling unfulfilled. This is where shadow work comes in—a profound practice that helps us dive deep into our subconscious, heal our traumas, and align with our true desires.

As a professional astrologer and tarot reader, I’ve seen the intricate dance between astrological placements, tarot archetypes, behaviors, and shadow work. By integrating these tools, we can uncover the root causes of our blocks, grieve our traumas, and find our authentic needs and wants.

Understanding Shadow Work

Imagine you’re in a secluded cabin in the woods. When everything is fine, it’s a cozy retreat. But when the power goes out, you need to muster the courage to venture into the creepy basement to check the fuse box. Shadow work is similar—it requires bravery to explore the dark corners of our psyche where our deepest wounds and fears reside.

Often, we’re unable to access our shadows because of pain or trauma. Our brains naturally want to protect us from these uncomfortable feelings. However, by employing somatic techniques and creating a safe environment, we can gradually release our darkest shame and move towards healing.

Grieving Trauma to Clear Blocks

Trauma, whether from childhood or adult experiences, often leaves us with unprocessed emotions that create energetic blocks. These blocks can manifest as fears, limiting beliefs, or unhealthy patterns in our relationships. The first step in manifesting love is to identify and grieve these traumas.

 1. Identify Your Trauma: Reflect on your past relationships and experiences that have caused you pain. Use tools like astrology and tarot to gain insights into the deeper patterns at play.
 2. Create a Safe Space: Just as you would feel safer exploring a basement with a flashlight and a friend, ensure you have a supportive environment for your shadow work. This could be a therapist, a coach, or a trusted friend.
 3. Somatic Release: Engage in practices that help release trauma from your body. This can include deep breathing, meditation, or movement. Our bodies hold onto trauma, and releasing it physically can be incredibly healing.
 4. Grieve Fully: Allow yourself to feel the full extent of your grief. This can be uncomfortable, but it’s a necessary step in clearing the blocks that hinder your ability to attract and maintain healthy love.

Discovering Your Authentic Needs and Wants

Once you’ve grieved your trauma, the next step is to uncover your authentic needs and desires. Often, we pursue relationships based on societal expectations or old conditioning rather than what truly fulfills us.

 1. Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on what you genuinely want in a relationship. What values and qualities are important to you? What kind of partnership would make you feel supported and loved?
 2. Astrological Insights: Use your natal chart to understand your core needs in a relationship. Your Venus sign, for instance, can reveal how you express love and what you need to feel valued.
 3. Tarot Guidance: Pull tarot cards to gain clarity on your desires and the path to manifesting love. Cards like The Lovers or The Empress can offer insights into your romantic journey.
 4. Affirmations and Visualization: Create affirmations and visualizations that align with your authentic needs. Imagine yourself in a loving, supportive relationship that meets your true desires.

Embracing the Journey

Manifesting love through shadow work is not a quick fix—it’s a deep, transformative journey. It requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to face your shadows. But the rewards are profound. By clearing your blocks, grieving your trauma, and uncovering your authentic needs, you open the door to a love that is true, fulfilling, and aligned with your highest self.

As someone who has walked this path after many devastating breakups, I can attest to the power of shadow work. It has allowed me to heal my wounds, break free from old patterns, and attract the love I truly deserve. Wherever you are on your journey, remember that every step towards your shadow is a step towards your light.

By integrating shadow work into your manifesting practice, you can transform your relationship with love. It’s about more than just attracting a partner—it’s about healing, growing, and becoming the person you need to be to experience true, lasting love. So, light your flashlight, take a deep breath, and bravely venture into your basement. Your most authentic and fulfilling love awaits.

Clearing Blocks to Grieve Trauma and Uncover Authentic Needs