Season 2 Episode 8

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Season 2, Episode 8 is live! Today I’m coming to you solo answering some listener Q&A’s, from my own spiritual practice, to hammering down your values, to rerouting a negative perspective!

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ThursdayThinks: Separating Fantasy from Reality (a Checklist)

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Going along with Monday’s theme of separating reality from your beliefs, I thought I’d create a checklist of questions to ask yourself when faced with such a dilemma. How do you know when you’re seeing things as they are, or merely dancing with the proverbial pink elephant?

It’s helpful to do a line of investigation when anxiety builds. Am I anxious because of the actual situation? Or because of a set of beliefs I’ve built AROUND the situation? Follow these questions the next time you’re faced with that unsavory anxiety and see if it doesn’t shed some light on your feelings around it. Let’s take going on a job interview, for example:

Ok, so you’re nervous about your big interview. So nervous that it might get in the way of success, which makes you MORE nervous! What do you do?

What does it mean if things don’t go exactly as I planned?

Have you put more pressure on this situation than necessary? Do you think it will define your character in any way if you don’t get the job? Are you worried about what your friends and family may think, rather than being focused on how you truly want to show up?

Are these beliefs ego serving in any way?

Does the word “failure” come up? Is it mostly negative-focused? Have your friends and family misjudged you before? Are you judging yourself for fear of landing outside of “perfect?”

Ideally, HOW do I want to show up?

Is it anxious and fidgety? Or calm, cool, and collected? Is it bubbly and confident? Or shy and quiet? What is the ultimate personality that needs to be displayed?

What is not serving me in this moment to perform my best and how do I let it go?

Are my previous beliefs creating an anxious environment? What affirmations can I say to cool me down? Do I have a second to meditate, or list off things I’m grateful for? Can I surrender the things that are simply out of my control?

Just performing a simple line of questioning can knock you back into reality. And if your anxiety is REALLY bad, you can always do some rounds of tapping to help open you up and put you back in a grounded state. At the end of the day, the negative self talk and damaging beliefs are merely a form of self sabotage. So how do you stop it? Well, YOU stop it!

You have complete and utter control over what your head says to you. Make it a safe haven. A sacred place. Stay calm, and stay witchy ( *)

 

 

 

The Call is Coming From Inside the House

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I talk a lot about beliefs versus truths here, and RuPaul always says this phrase on his podcast so I thought I’d use it as my topic for this week. When he says, “The call is coming from inside the house,” he’s referring to your negative self talk holding you back, based  on an old 70’s film titled When a Stranger Calls. The movie SPOILER centers around a baby sitter, played by Carol Kane, who keeps receiving strange and threatening phone calls. The stalker would consistently call and harass her, only to find out that when the call is traced, it’s coming from inside the house. The metaphor exists in this: it isn’t what is happening outside in reality, it is what you have held onto as your belief system that is the means for sabotage.

I recently performed a tarot spread for a reader who was frustrated with her creative blocks. She didn’t know why she couldn’t share her creations with the world. And although she reached out to me to consult my cards, the first phrase that popped into my head was “The call is coming from inside the house.” And, as I would have imagined, the cards echoed that loud and clear.

Fear is merely a byproduct of our overthinking. Yes, there are some real elements to fear, like physical danger, that our instincts will do our best to protect us from. But on a day to day basis, we mostly have constructed a belief system that masquerades as protecting us. It keeps us hidden in the house and isolated. It keeps us locked in one very accessible spot. Instead of letting us explore the options to make a systematic escape, we cower. All because of our own “truths.”

I’ve explained this before, but it bears repeating. Your belief system is constructed of things you’ve picked up throughout your life that have a significant emotion attached to it. For example, once I was wearing a dress with polka dots on it and a mean girl called me fat in an Urban Outfitters. Guess what belief manifested? Never wear polka dots.

Is that irrational? Totally. But if you don’t have the tools to separate emotion with sound reasoning (like when you’ve just hit puberty and you don’t know how to dress for your new boobs and slight pudge) that devastation will stay with you as a “truth.” So the next time you walk into Target and see some adorable polka dot romper, you’ll get a call that says “Don’t wear that, it’ll make you look fat.” And when you trace it, it won’t be coming from a mean girl. It’ll be coming from you. Because the more you repeat it, the more it becomes your own words.

There needs to be destruction, much like the Tower portends, in order to grow past these outdated beliefs. You need to trace that call back, aaallllll the way back, and have a real conversation with who’s on the other end. Why did you hold onto so tightly what the mean Urban Outfitters girl said? Why did it hurt you so much? Is it actually true? Or is it something you can let go of?

These kinds of questions and lines of reasoning can lead to the emotional security of the Queen of Cups. Holding onto fearful language and damaging beliefs only sits your house on a rocky foundation. In order to be truly rooted, your beliefs and values must exist in confidence and logic. Not on insults that you’re afraid of.

So next time you feel held back or restricted, take a long hard look at why these exist in your brain. Why have you decided to protect yourself by rehashing illogical statements? Is it still serving you? Don’t you WANT to wear polka dots???

Start tracing those calls, wear the polka dots proudly, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 7

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Season 2, Episode 7 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with Rhian Kivits! In this episode, we get intimate and talk about S E X. Find her on Instagram, Facebook, or on her website!

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ThursdayThinks: Three Ways to Live With Intention TODAY 

Living with intention is such a powerful act, but goes overlooked all the time. When our schedules change, when we’re stressed, in fact, unless everything is going perfectly, living intentionally can get pushed to the wayside.
It’s easy to meditate every morning and act with purpose when we have money in the bank, a schedule that works for us, and a roof over our head. But it’s when times are tough that living with intention is more essential than ever. Here are three ways you can inject purpose into your everyday RIGHT FRIGGIN NOW.

Wake up with a mission:

  • I like to start the mornings with a goal if I feel like I’m spiraling. In program they say “One day at a time,” and it works. Sectioning things off into a day, a minute, a second, or a task, helps things to feel less overwhelming. For example, this morning I woke up and said, “I’m going to move my body today in a way that feels good.” Because I haven’t been working out lately and have been eating crap food, I’ve gained some weight. So, by starting with something small and intentional, I can focus on how I can move my body like a Goddess all day. When we don’t pay attention, we can stomp around unknowingly, not appreciating our knees and toes for what they provide for us everyday. This mission helps to redirect the thought and insert gratitude as well.

Create an alter and pray to it:

  • In whatever capacity that means to you. I have my first success alter pictured above, with a Mojo candle by the very talented Haus of Hoodoo, and by placing things around it that scream “Success!” I have intentionally honored what it means to be successful. I wrote out a years worth of checks to myself, placed a big piece of Citrine and Fluorite around the candle, wrote myself my dream testimonial of a satisfied client (which actually manifested!) and spoke to it everyday. I acknowledged the power and meaning behind success, and building a relationship with it helped to keep the idea of “living successfully” exist in the forefront of my mind. Can you say manifestation?!

Be present:

  • This one is a little more difficult, especially if you’ve never meditated, but it is POWERFUL. I endorse this fully, in particular if you are at a job you hate, commuting in traffic, or living in a space that is uncomfortable. When you are in the uncomfortable situation, instead of fighting it, be intentionally present. Understand that this, as all things, is fleeting, and go through the motions INTENTIONALLY making the best of the situation. When you are present, instead of complaining, you can find positive solutions to make the unbearable, well, bearable. So, you hate the job, but you need it for money in the short term, right? Go in, do the job to the best of your ability (because the opposite will almost always count against you) and look for the things that make you happy there. Even if it’s just one co-worker, or the fact that you can decorate your desk, focus on what makes you happy and be PRESENT. Traffic? Take the time to listen to a podcast, some awesome music, or learn a language! Maximize that time! Living in an uncomfortable space? Well, do your best to make it comfy! Messy roommate? Have the conversation. Too little space? Get creative and decorate around the issue! There are a multitude of ways that being present can present creative solutions. Living in the muck, finding out what actually makes you unhappy and why, and being grateful for the ability to solve it will work WONDERS for your life!

Living intentionally can be done in a variety of ways, and can be super fun! But it takes dedication to do it. Once you see the way your life changes after sticking to purposeful living, you’ll never want to turn back! But remember, it’s an easy practice to forget when things aren’t going great, so remind yourself of this tool and stay witchy ( *)

Living Intentionally vs. Floating Aimlessly

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This concept was pretty revolutionary to me, because after digging around I found that floating aimlessly was triggering my anxiety and depression. I was trying to control while spiraling out of it, and it wasn’t until I started to live intentionally that I found direction. When I started to put an intention towards my actions, first small, then big, I started to feel a major shift in my energy and people’s reactions to it.

So what do I mean by this? Well, first, it’s important to find out what your core values are. Once you have uncovered what it is that you truly believe in, you can live your life in alignment with your values.

Is one of your values loyalty but you have a cheating boyfriend? Get rid of him. He doesn’t suit you and will only veer you off course. Do you believe highly in creativity, but are stuck in a cubicle answering phones? Get out there and find a job that challenges you. Live with INTENTION.

Now, living intentionally is not a means of control, but rather, pouring meaning into your actions. It’s living WITH purpose, instead of for it. It’s molding a life around your highest beliefs, and honoring them with follow through.

This can be done on a really small scale day to day as well. Is one of your values respect? Give your seat to an elderly man or woman on the train next time it’s packed. Do you have money anxiety but value abundance? Clean out your wallet and make it a sad haven for cash. The possibilities are endless, and the reason why most things tend to spiral out of control is because we simply aren’t paying true attention to them.

This new journey will make you feel like the Fool, just starting out on a whole new view of your world. But I promise, that once you exercise this daily and get it down pat, you’ll feel the victory and control of the Chariot. The world is an abundant and beautiful place, and it is time to reap the benefits. And it starts by living life with intention. Stay witchy, friends ( *)

Season 2 Episode 6

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Season 2, Episode 6 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with Jocelyn Zahn! We talk about diet culture, using creativity in the kitchen, and how changing your diet can help beat depression. Find her on Instagram or on her website!

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