Trauma Resolution

  After rape, feeling safe isn’t easy to come by. And through some interesting research and my favorite podcast, an idea was brought to my attention. You feel unsafe for surface reasons that are obvious, but also a deeper biological reason that isn’t so: you haven’t finished your fight or flight response, and so discomfort…

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How to be Wrong with Grace

  Being wrong is just the worst, isn’t it? The Five of Wands signifies conflict that is far from constructive. Everyone is shouting and no one is listening, so nothing gets accomplished. All the feelings are valid, but everyone is too self absorbed and focused on being “right.” But what is the point of being…

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When Compromise Becomes Compromising

There must be a theme of compromise in relationships; it is perfectly necessary when two people learn how to work together while being emotionally invested in each other. But what happens when there is only one person sacrificing? How can you measure who brings what to the table? First and foremost, I think I should…

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Love and Heartbreak are Acts of Self Trust

  I’ve talked about these topics at length, as well as of my favorite book, Women Who Run With the Wolves. In this book, Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about the cycle of love in a new, and yet, ancient way that speaks very clearly to me. In this book she dissects old fables and explains how…

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Why Can’t You See the Love When it’s Staring You in the Face?

I remember, as a child, feeling quite alone and isolated. I remember a deep, unquenchable thirst for love that I thought I wasn’t getting. I convinced myself that I was not receiving love, and was therefore unworthy of it. I found comfort and solace in pain. But why? My parents loved me. I had a…

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Sexual Trauma and Relationships

The Eight of Swords depicts a feeling of powerlessness, and nothing will make a person feel more powerless than sexual trauma. It’s an indescribable feeling of emptiness from abuse, but it is not the way one has to feel forever. When one holds sexual trauma in their body, they will react to triggers. I’ve written…

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Self Permission

As my Euro trip comes to a close, I want to touch on an important issue for most every woman on vacation, and that is allowing yourself permission in terms of diet and exercise.  Yes it is the New Year and I’m sure most of you have weight-related resolutions, but let’s get this shit straight:…

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Control Freaks and the Unknown

Reversed, the Emperor denotes excessive control and rigidity. And that sounds super familiar to me. You see, regardless of the self help path that you venture on, you’re bound to revisit some demons. But when you face these demons with the tool belt you’ve stocked up, you’re more able to combat them in a successful…

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Love Addiction vs Codependency

While labels may seem obnoxious and confining, they can be helpful tools in figuring out where you are in your journey and how to correct what isn’t working. So lets go through and take my favorite topic and compare and contrast a love addict from a codependent. First off, love addicts and codeps share a…

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An Apology to My Past Self

Over my few months of writing here at WitchyWisdoms, I’ve come to notice a pattern in some of my posts. When trying to prove a point, through examples and comparisons, I’ll throw my past self under the bus and shame her for the “mess” that she was. And in being quite frank, I did look…

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