ThursdayThinks: Ways to Exercise Boundaries in Business

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Want some tips on how to keep your personal flavor, while maintaining a business savvy?? It’s difficult to be an empath as an entrepreneur, but check out these tips to stay on top of the game!

  • Know your worth and align it in every practice: What do you think you’re ACTUALLY worth? Think about what your practice/ business affords the world, and lead with confidence around it.
  • Know when to cut the dialogue short: If you’re in the middle of being taken advantage of, in whatever the case, get yourself an exit strategy. Know how to identify when people are asking for too much (i.e. to a point of making you uncomfortable) and remember that you are allowed to not participate.
  • Set some ground rules, and don’t break ’em: It’s important to have a policy in place for your business, because when you come from an empathetic place (like I do) you want to do favors for everyone. Policies help set the standard.
  • Consistency is key: Remember when I said “don’t break ’em”? I mean it. To convey consistent policies is the only way to command respect, in your personal life AND your business.
  • Communicate effectively: Let your customers or clients know your policies in a firm manner! This can be hard for empaths, because we are sensitive ourselves, but firm (not rude!) communication is the real winner here.

Practicing these tips is not only going to help you run your business effectively, but it will amp up your energetic flow! This kind of confidence around the worth of your business will bring respectful customers and ideal clients to your doorstep! Practice carefully and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2: Episode 12

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Season 2, Episode 12 is live! And this is the last episode of the season!!!!!!!

I’m coming to you solo today to discuss creatively switching up your thought process and how it can lead to successful manifestation. I thought it would be a great way to tie up the season, and I even have a surprise announcement at the end of the episode!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Tune in below and on iTunes, and be sure to subscribe and leave a rating!!! ( *)

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Shadow Work and Compassion Over Shame

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So, you’re trying to manifest  money and it just isn’t coming to fruition. You’re constantly annoyed by certain pet peeves that make work miserable. Or, you can’t seem to date without tossing every guy with a minor flaw aside.

What may need to be done is some Shadow Work.

What the hell is Shadow Work? (Thank you for asking, Sharon.)

Shadow Work is a practice derived from the work of Carl Jung, in which we uproot and investigate the parts of ourselves that we don’t want to look at. As a Scorpio, this dirty work is just the kind of fun I’m looking for, but for most people, it’s terrifying.

Our shadow is a collection of parts of ourselves that we deem unfitting or undesirable, so we cast it away (into the shadows.) However, it is still a piece of US, and as multi-faceted beings, we should be able to honor even our ugly parts. So, when something inside of us gets ignored, it shows up right in front of our faces in very confusing ways.

Do you find it annoying when people ask for things at work? Maybe that’s because you are too afraid for ask for things yourself.

Are you weirded out by guys who have a nurturing side that you deem too effeminate? Maybe it’s because you’re shaming your own femininity.

Are you not manifesting your desired amount of money? Maybe there’s a piece of you that wants you to fail.

The point of Shadow Work is to come to these realizations and connect with the piece of you that had desires other than what you’re outwardly projecting. Show compassion for the pieces of you that are your own black sheep. Give those pieces a hug instead of shaming them and casting them out.

Because living in this duality, this split personality, is only going to leave you lying awake at night, as the Nine of Swords. It brings anxiety and confusion. It brings pain and suffering, because you refuse to see the root of your missteps.

Instead, embrace the Devil reversed, and free yourself from the clutches of ignorance. Sit down with your dark parts and come to a mutual understanding. The more you shame, the more powerful your shadow becomes in the depths of your soul.

So, bring your whole self into the light. Show compassion over shame. Hug your darkness and embrace yourself for every nook and cranny you have to offer the world. Respect your shadow, and stay witchy ( *)

 

ThursdayThinks: Words to Romanticize Instead of Tragic

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When I was in my teens I always thought “tragic” was such a glamorous word. There was something about pain that was so beautiful, so comfortable to me. But, reflecting on those years, I see now that it is only because it was the only world I knew. Tragic HAD to be beautiful, because otherwise my foundation would crumble. As a former drug addict, if my addiction couldn’t be seen as “cool,” or my pain as “pretty,” then I’d have to clean up and rebuild.

So, this week’s ThursdayThinks, featuring yet another Oracle Card from my Modern Goddess Oracle Deck (illustrated by @tamalgoth) I’ve decided to list some words that SHOULD be glamorized for those that need it. Feel free to post yours in the comments ❤

  • Strong
  • Tenacious
  • Patient
  • Nurturing
  • Logical
  • Loyal
  • Respectful
  • Encouraging
  • Supportive
  • Ambitious
  • Courageous
  • Motivated
  • Balanced
  • Positive
  • Empathetic

Some of these words might even be your core values, or may inspire you to live fully. Use this list when you feel down and begin to do things that aren’t aligned with your soul, but with tragedy. I implore you, if “tragic” is something you feel akin to, take this list and start looking up, because when the Tower crumbles, new beginnings emerge. Stay witchy, beautiful ones ( *)

 

ThursdayThinks: Style Your Mind

IMG_4640Cara Alwill Leyba, who was a guest recently on my podcast, has a brand centered around the concept “Style Your Mind.” With a book and a podcast under this name, it got me thinking exactly what styling MY mind means to me.

So, on Monday we spoke about rerouting yourself to positivity over negativity, and I think that can be done with your own style/ identity. Which brings me to this weeks exercise, on creating a stylishly YOU avatar as a reference.

My style changes all the time, because I am constantly evolving. Sometimes I want to dress like Mama Ru in day drag and take selfies in bathroom mirrors. And sometimes I want to wear long flowing black dresses and sing Stevie Nicks under naked trees. But what stays the same for the longest is who I really want to show up as at my core.

So for this weeks exercise, I want you to create an avatar of exactly what YOUR style is and how to honor that with your  mindset.

What do I mean by this?

Let’s start superficially. What does your ideal you look like? What does she wear? Is her hair pulled back taut and strong, or free flowing and long? What is her first impression?

Next, what does your ideal you sound like? Does she have a strong voice? Does she ask questions? Does she sit back and observe? What is her presence??

Next, what does she do? Does she have a kick ass career? Is she an artist? Is she both? Does she play in the park? Does she drink daytime champagne? What is she all about?

And lastly, what is her thought process? Is she super ambitious? Or is she a self care queen? Is she in the middle? Does she honor all of her thoughts equally? Or does she have down days where she needs to recover? Does she speak 7 languages? Is she a taxidermy expert? What goes on in her brain??

When you do this exercise, you’re going to carve out someone to use as a benchmark that is uniquely your idol. There is no perfection. There is only perfectly YOU. And when you have a day where you feel lost, or when you feel out of control, you can say, “What would avatar Shawn do in this instance?”

Its a fun exercise, and you can even make a symbol for her and write her everywhere as a reminder. Get creative, dream big, and stay witchy ( *)

Why My Rituals Are So Powerful (and Why You Need Them in Your Life!)

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Practicing intentional symbolic action takes place all over the world at any given time and creates a directed energy that is palpable. Think of the National Anthem at the Super Bowl. That’s a ritual that Americans practice every year and you can actually feel the vibrations coursing through the stadium, and even the living room you’re watching in with a chicken wing in hand. Ritual work is incredibly moving, literally anyone can do it, and utilizing the power of Full and New Moons magnifies the strength of the energy.

But why is it so powerful? What makes this kind of practice work?

  1. Setting a directed intention:
    • When you focus on something, you give it power. And ritual work is no exception. The moon cycle is a great time to set and harvest intentions, and when you really want to achieve or heal something, this is a sacred time and space to be able to do so. All of the thought and energy you pour into what you truly desire will be amplified by this magical work. This is why it feels so great to act it out!
  2. Meditation:
    • Whether you’re using a crystal, the flame of the candle, or simply sitting still, incorporating meditation into ritual work helps to open the third eye and allows us to receive messages. It clears space in our head away from the chaos and allows a mystical energy to flow through. Envisioning yourself lighter or enveloped by a color or aura helps to open certain chakras and foster alignment.
  3. Symbolism:
    • Gathering things that represent the fruition of your intention gives it power as well. If you seek to be more grounded, collecting stones and things of the earth help to place that idea in the forefront. It makes it tangible.
  4. Journaling:
    • Like many witches, I use journaling in my rituals. Coming into a meditative state and free flowing words with which I hold in my subconscious helps to bring them to light. The act of physically writing down my dreams and intentions helps to purposefully put them out into the universe. And as far as manifestation goes, it really works.

These are elements that I use in all of my rituals, and I have gotten rave reviews from every client that has used them. The rewards received from completing a ritual have been an incredible uplifting feeling, clarity, mindfulness, grounding energy, alignment and more. Usually they cost 50$ per ritual, but right now I have a subscription package that costs 1$ per ritual for an entire year. That is a one time payment of 24$ to have a Full and New Moon ritual right in your inbox 1-2 days before each cycle. That is so much value for the price of a couple of Starbucks coffees.

Grab it here, get your ritual on, and stay witchy ( *)

Abundant Universe Experiment

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This is a super fun, super wild exercise brought to you from the New York Times bestseller, E squared. It is FUCKING AMAZING what your mind can accomplish when you  simply just pay attention,

Alright, so all this experiment takes is 48 hours and an open mind. That’s it.

Now what I want you to do, is to pick an arbitrary object. Like butterflies or yellow flowers or white feathers. Anything that your little heart desires. It can even mean something to you, or be an idea like “love.”

Now, for the next 48 hours I want you to KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN and look for this object or evidence to support this idea. Here’s an example:

If you chose to look for Love, keep a record of everything that you see in 48 hours that supports Love. Hearts on a little girls sweater. An old couple holding hands. A young couple cuddling on the subway. Red roses. Anything that supports the idea of love gets written down.

Wanted to stick with something more simple? Let’s say you chose yellow flowers. Those could be found growing as weeds out of cracked cement, on a floor length skirt, on a plastic umbrella, or in a commercial.

The point is, pick something, anything, and just keep your eyes peeled for it over the next 48 hours. Let the universe prove to you that it will show you what you are looking for. When the 48 hours are up, look at your tally and be prepared to be amazed.

Get on it and stay witchy ( *)

 

WednesdayWisdoms: Sex Magick

Brought to you by popular demand: your very own, beginners, sex magic ritual!

Ok, so first things first, if you are looking to be more sexy, have better sex, or have a lot of sex, this is not where you need to be. Sex magick is a form of manifestation.

Sex and orgasms are energy, and this post will teach you how to harness that energy for greatness. This kind of energy is super powerful and works especially well on a full moon.

Alright, so here go the basics:

Step one is figuring out what you want to manifest. Get really specific about the thing you want most in life. Write it out and charge it with an intention. You have to give energy to receive.

Then we’re going to assign this object a symbol of some sort. You can make your own, or attribute a picture to it. Make sure it is visible in your minds eye.

And now for the fun part! Either by yourself, or with a partner, it’s time to get busy 😉 Build yourself up slowly so you can release as much energy as possible.

Finally, when you are just about to climax, hold the image you wish to manifest in your minds eye. Hold it there steady and clearly while you orgasm. This flow of energy will charge the manifestation and make your wish cum true!

Sex magick for beginners is not only quite simple, but very powerful. Full moon energy, helps to enrich the manifestation, but is not necessary. Be free to practice as much as you like, but remember, if you get greedy and start manifesting everything, you might create an energy shift you won’t be happy with. Work on one thing at a time, give thanks to the moon, and stay witchy ( *)

Why Your Sexual Fruit is Sacred, but There’s No Shame in Sharing Some of the Juice 


My relationship with sex has been a complicated one. It must have started out with the pressure of losing my virginity, because I slept with a boyfriend of four days “just to get it over with.” This kind of set the pace for devaluing my body, and I didn’t even know the power and sacredness of my sexuality.

It also didn’t help that I caught that boyfriend cheating on me with his neighbor. This incident created a haphazard idea of sex. That it just didn’t matter.

The road became more and more cluttered when I realized that I so desperately wanted, NEEDED, male attention. I was craving love of any kind, so I would drunkenly throw myself at men and then become puzzled as to why they weren’t in love with me. Like, why isn’t this like in the movies???

Further down the line, I would try to pretend that my unsuccessful tactics, and the inevitable outcomes, didn’t bother me. I was just going to Samantha Jones myself through life and hope someone respected me along the way. But sex or not, I didn’t respect myself. See whats wrong with this picture?

Then, as you know, I was raped. What a freakin doozey that was in my sexual landscape. That turned everything upside down, flipped it, and reversed it (thanks Missy.) Now fear was a factor. How was I supposed to land a man if I couldn’t let him touch me?

And lo and behold, who is there to pop up? But my infamous ex. I felt comfortable around him, got drunk, and took him home on the first night. He stayed for the next three days. And rather than questioning if he should be at his job, I let our insecurities click and the rest is history.

So all of this leading up to my turning point was synonymous with the message of The Devil. I was ruled by obsession and trauma, rather than intuition, respect, and just plain logic. I gave away the whole fruit and couldn’t satisfy myself.

Nowadays it’s a whole different ballgame. I have done the work and thoroughly respect my body, but let’s be honest, we all need a little pleasure in our lives. I do not want a relationship right now, but I’m not above a hookup. The difference here is that I understand what I want, I communicate effectively with a potential partner, we are both 100% consenting, and there is no grey area of sadness and depression.

The Lovers describes a union and an alignment of values. That is the important part, and what I was missing the whole time. Trying to drunkenly (and half-assededly I might add) seduce a man into loving me and then cry when he doesn’t is idiotic. Being up front about what you need in a partner and seeing if your values align gives you a choice, and if you choose to give your body over to someone who doesn’t want what you want, you’re putting yourself in a compromising position. You’re setting yourself up for hurt. And to do it over and over and over again expecting different results is insane. You gotta revolutionize your sexy little world to find that happiness. Cuz it’s hiding on the other side of the bed.

Sex might be a plush display of love in a steamy relationship, or a taboo icon that is used for selling t-shirts and hamburgers, but it is also a necessary way of life. Sex is sacred, yes, but it is also fun and pleasurable and NATURAL. You don’t have to wear a chastity belt for the rest of your life in order to protect yourself. You just have to get to the root of your needs. If your needs consist of a sweet and quick release, then by all means sugar, get yours (while staying safe.) And if your needs consist of a relationship, get to dating! Communicate that you are looking for a partner and don’t settle for less. You can’t change his mind with sex. It has never happened and never will. Align your values before you get busy.

So sex wisely, my kittens. You’re worthy of a good time. Just be sure you protect your heart first, and stay witchy ( *)

Why a Job Won’t Give You A Sense of Purpose If You Aren’t Living Purposefully

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To piggy back on my WednesdayWisdoms exercise, I want to dive a little further into my experience with career:

Throughout my life, I had always put pressure on finding a dream job. I have worked in the service industry since age thirteen, and worked full time through college, but it never fulfilled me. I always dreamed I was destined for more.

In the search, over time, I lost my path. I knew I needed certain things out of a job, but I lost my creativity. And to a point, I would take any job that had a fancy title.

When I got the chance to work as a general manager in a restaurant, I thought that that was it for me. I thought that one day I would take over and have a couple of restaurants in New York, but then, as with the crumble of my life at the time, I lost the job, and felt that I had lost everything.

I poured all of my energy into this job and into my toxic relationship and none of it into ME. I was not living with purpose because I felt I had none. I tried to find it in a man and a job, and when I lost both I felt that my purpose was taken from me. But, on the contrary, it was inside me the entire time.

Much like the Hermit of the Major Arcana, it was time for some serious soul searching. My purpose was in there somewhere, I just had to find it.

And my purpose, as with I believe all women’s purpose, is to live an authentic life. My authenticity stems from my intent to help. And once I carved out some boundaries around it, I’ve made it my career. My purpose has given me what I so desired. And it runs deep. Deeper than any title that wouldn’t, or couldn’t, serve me.

Now, like the World card shows, I feel a sense of fulfillment. And it’s because I’m listening to my body and my soul. I’m living out my will. I am not hushing my creativity or silencing my innate need to nurture.

So what is your soul screaming? What is the purpose you seek out to live? Who is the woman inside of you trying to be? If you listen to her and live with purpose, purpose will live with you back.

Live purposefully, and stay witchy ( *)