For all my high achievers out there, I know it is hard to take some time to relax and enjoy yourselves. I know we can’t all go on expensive vacations around the world, but we can at least dedicate a few hours to ourselves out of our week to take it easy.
This week, I want you to pick one day and block off a few hours. Do a mud mask. Take a bath. Workout and then meditate. Watch Orange is the New Black. Any activity you want, but just be sure to dedicate it to yourself, sans interruptions. You deserve to kick back, so carve out the time! It is possible. I promise.
Set out a schedule of your week and see what you can move around to make it happen. Can you do laundry after work one day in order to free up some time on Sunday? Do it. Make time for yourself and structure your week accordingly. Your soul will thank you.
Stay mindful of your own time, and stay witchy ( *)
I think a lot of the reason why we dive into unhealthy behaviors is because we’re afraid of being alone. It can be terrifying to be by ourselves and faced with our truths, so we run in a myriad of ways.
When I started this blog and publicly dove into the depths of my mind, I was all alone swimming in a scary pool of self doubt. But I needed to explore the depths before going back to the surface. It cleansed me.
So for this weeks practice, I want you to be alone. Read a book, write in a journal, do a yoga session, make jewelry, read your own tarot cards, do arts and crafts, take a bath, literally ANY hobby. But do it without distraction. Not with a glass of wine. Not while the TV is on. Not with a huge bag of chips or candy.
Go on a date with yourself and see what you find. What is intriguing in your mind? Do you find that inner critic coming up? Can you follow the advice from last Wednesday to quiet it?
Spend at least an hour doing this solitary activity, and then, when you are done, write down how you feel. Write down what you learned. Make concrete observations and force yourself into self awareness.
The more you practice this, the more you will learn to appreciate yourself. You will open up a Pandora’s Box of creativity, but maybe not until you flush out some monsters. This exercise, over time, will increase your confidence because YOU will know YOU inside and out.
It might be scary at first, and if it is, write it down. Write down why. Show yourself some compassion for being scared. It takes courage to face your truth.
So get out of your comfort space, get alone, and stay witchy ( *)
The two of wands represents future planning, progress, decisions and discovery.
And if any of you are like me, that gives you anxiety.
When we have all of these projects, due dates, travel plans, and errands swirling around in our heads, we sit in this overwhelmed place and most of the time lose a lot of sleep.
But how do we organize this mess of thoughts? How do we make these seemingly unconquerable tasks a tangible reality? How do we do it???
Well, it might sound all too easy, but if you just write it down, its like it already happened.
I have always had a huge problem with income anxiety. No matter how much I made or how little, there was always a problem with my fear that I couldn’t make it. So one day, I decided to sit down and make a forecasting chart. With a very modest amount, I projected how much I would make in a week, how many pay days were in that month, deducted my expenses and got my profit margin. From that number I committed to a reasonable amount to set aside each week for saving, and I automatically felt a weight of relief.
I know your head is spinning from all that math, but bear with me.
When you make a plan, write it down, and stick to it, your pre-frontal cortex (the one that plans and overthinks) can rest and delegate all of these tasks to your lower brain that works on auto pilot. Every week a set amount goes into savings and all I have to do is look at the progress.
As a supporter of 12 step programs, I like to live by the mantra “One day at a time.”
Guys, this can be applied to ANYTHING.
And this is why I created three lists on my phone.
To do right now
To do this week
To do eventually
Breaking down all of your “to do’s” in a simple, organized manner purges all of that anxiety and helps to clear some space out in your head for what is really important.Have a million things to do after work? Write them down in to do right now. Have some things you know should be done (laundry, etc.) but don’t have time today and its driving you crazy? Write them down in to do this week. Have things coming up in the future and these tasks are mocking you from their space in the calendar? Write them down in to do eventually. Then your anxiety surrounding time management or if you will forget or not disappears, and when you check those bitches off once they are complete its like a thousand Christmas mornings!
This kind of anxiety is manageable and unnecessary. You can have control over it by doing such a simple thing, so why not? Try making a list this week and take note of how you feel. Stay witchy my friends ( *)