ThursdayThinks: Navigating Family Through the Holidays

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It’s no secret that family knows how to push your buttons. And when they’re all gathered in one place, asking you the same drilling questions or making remarks that are unfair, it could make you want to lash out, drink heavily, or leave.

During this holiday season, use these tips to navigate a family get-together in a peaceful,  copacetic way. It doesn’t have to be a disaster if you’re prepared!

  • Get a buddy- Ok so there’s at least one family member you ADORE right? Make it a point to stick with them, and minimize time with those family members you know will cause a headache.
  • Make yourself useful– Helping out in the kitchen not only makes you look good, but gives you an excuse to busy yourself when you don’t want to answer why you’re not married yet. Being of service to your family while staying out of pressuring conversations is a great way to navigate Thanksgiving dinner.
  • Write a script– If you know there are certain questions coming your way, be prepared with some stock answers so you can be polite, but also not feel overwhelmed.
  • Set boundaries– Following suit, find an exit strategy. When the questions get too drilling and you start to feel bad about yourself, find a way to politely and discreetly exit the conversation with a few things you’ve prepared, like “Oh, there’s Aunt Blanche, I haven’t said hello to her yet!” or “I should really help Dorothy in the kitchen,” or “Rose, I heard you remodeled, would you give me a tour!”
  • Be grateful you have them– This last one is the most important. It’s easy to get annoyed and overwhelmed by family, but the holidays are for being thankful that they exist in the first place. Yes, they might drive you a little nuts, but each one of them has contributed to your life in one way or another, and it would serve you to not only be patient, but grateful.

So, this holiday season, be merry, be prepared, and stay witchy ( *)

 

What Are You Thankful For?

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The Nine of Pentacles denotes gratitude and inner harmony, and what better time to be grateful than during Thanksgiving?

When things aren’t going well, it is difficult to be thankful. But it is also an important time to look for the positive in your life so the negative doesn’t consume you. Looking in retrospect at how you’ve chosen to grow from unfavorable situations is easier than when you are in it, but looking forward with tenacity is an admirable skill that can be learned.

In the spirit of the holiday tomorrow, I’ve decided to create a list for the things I am thankful for today. Feel free to use it in comparison with your own!

  1. I am thankful for my mental and physical health, which I have had the strength and value to invest time in.
  2. I am thankful for my coven/ my family, for supporting me when times were bad, and celebrating with me when times were good.
  3. I am thankful for the ability to open my heart again.
  4. I am thankful for the obstacles in my life that have made me stronger and smarter.
  5. I am thankful for the strength that made me a survivor, and more than a victim.
  6. I am thankful for forgiveness, which has helped me to release harmful, negative energy within myself.
  7. I am thankful for my steady income, which keeps a roof over my head.
  8. I am thankful for my ability to write, which has been an incredible gift and exercise.
  9. I am thankful for my followers, who are loyal and accepting of my brand.
  10. I am thankful for my spirit, which had many opportunities to falter, but never did.

Get thankful today, tomorrow, and always. Stay witchy ( *)