Sadness is the Anti-Pheromone

Brought to you by an epiphany during my latest vacation home, here is a break down of the power of sadness: Let me tell you, from pure experience, that sadness and desperation is a stench. It’s an obvious aura that is just plain freaking unattractive. Harsh, right? Well in simple terms, your inside dictates your…

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WednesdayWisdoms: Sex Magick

Brought to you by popular demand: your very own, beginners, sex magic ritual! Ok, so first things first, if you are looking to be more sexy, have better sex, or have a lot of sex, this is not where you need to be. Sex magick is a form of manifestation. Sex and orgasms are energy, and…

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Why Your Sexual Fruit is Sacred, but There’s No Shame in Sharing Some of the Juice 

My relationship with sex has been a complicated one. It must have started out with the pressure of losing my virginity, because I slept with a boyfriend of four days “just to get it over with.” This kind of set the pace for devaluing my body, and I didn’t even know the power and sacredness…

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Recurring Dreams

I get asked about recurring dreams all the time. I even used to struggle with them myself. But the funny thing about recurring dreams, or dreams in general, is that they are just metaphorical manifestations of our greatest fears and hopes. One reader wrote to me recently that she often dreamt of a “frail, depressed girl” who…

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Tales From My Bedroom Floor: Volume 5, The Victim

Volume 5 is now up on My Trending Stories! Go read here:  https://mytrendingstories.com/article/tales-from-my-bedroom-floor-volume-5-the-victim/   In this six part series, I go through times that were pivotal in collecting my personal and detrimental belief system, all while crying on my bedroom floor. And if you like my writing so far, please share and comment. I’m working…

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Tales From My Bedroom Floor: Volume 3, The Drunk

Volume 3 is now up on My Trending Stories! Go read here:  https://mytrendingstories.com/article/tales-from-my-bedroom-floor-volume-3-the-drunk/ In this six part series, I go through times that were pivotal in collecting my personal and detrimental belief system, all while crying on my bedroom floor. And if you like my writing so far, please share and comment. I’m working on…

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Trauma Resolution

  After rape, feeling safe isn’t easy to come by. And through some interesting research and my favorite podcast, an idea was brought to my attention. You feel unsafe for surface reasons that are obvious, but also a deeper biological reason that isn’t so: you haven’t finished your fight or flight response, and so discomfort…

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When Compromise Becomes Compromising

There must be a theme of compromise in relationships; it is perfectly necessary when two people learn how to work together while being emotionally invested in each other. But what happens when there is only one person sacrificing? How can you measure who brings what to the table? First and foremost, I think I should…

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Love and Heartbreak are Acts of Self Trust

  I’ve talked about these topics at length, as well as of my favorite book, Women Who Run With the Wolves. In this book, Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about the cycle of love in a new, and yet, ancient way that speaks very clearly to me. In this book she dissects old fables and explains how…

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Sexual Trauma and Relationships

The Eight of Swords depicts a feeling of powerlessness, and nothing will make a person feel more powerless than sexual trauma. It’s an indescribable feeling of emptiness from abuse, but it is not the way one has to feel forever. When one holds sexual trauma in their body, they will react to triggers. I’ve written…

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