Happy New Year from WitchyWisdomsHQ!!

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Happy New Year my beautiful WitchBabes!!

This photo was taken in Berlin last New Years Eve, and I was so lucky to spend it with my sister dancing all night long to 90s American pop music. This year I was busy working, but I am grateful all the same. But it has me thinking…

The New Year has me reflecting and repurposing much of my business, Craft, and lifestyle, so get ready for some major changes happening over here!

For starters, this blog will no longer be so frequent. I honestly have begun to resent the task of sitting down and writing it, and its starting to feel forced. So, to bring the magic back to life, I’ve decided to cut back and only post on a Full Moon, so I can bring you a long reflection full of inspiration, rather than a contrived weekly post.

That being said, my email list WILL go out every Monday now, with tips, tricks, inspiration, witchy goodness, and updates! So be sure to subscribe to that so you don’t miss out.

And remember, tonight is a Super Full Moon in Cancer, with an emotional air and a powerful energy to kick off the New Year. Get your rituals ready, take out your journals, and pull some cards tonight. It should be highly insightful for your shadow self and the year to come!

To a beautiful 2018, to resting and relaxing today, and to staying witchy ( *)

 

Season 2: Episode 10

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Season 2, Episode 10 is live! Today’s interview is with The Spiritual Boss Lady, Miss Amanda Frances! In this episode we discuss how to break through your money blocks, harvest a soulful relationship with money, and manifest your wildest dreams!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Why I Always Romanticized the Word “Tragic”


I remember being 13 and wanting to be miserable. 

You know the saying, “misery loves company”? 

Misery loves familiarity. And romanticizing tragedy was so aligned with my state at that time. I needed tragic to be romantic so I could feel a sense of worth. 

There was something about the skinny, miserable, cigarette smoking girls I would see in movies that was glamorous to me. It was like validation. But I wasn’t looking at the big picture. I was looking to feel comfortable, instead of getting UNcomfortable and completely changing my state. 

My perspective was looking across the floorboards to find loose change under couches, instead of standing up and seeing the entire room. My view was low and targeted, instead of vast and abundant. 

This was very reminiscent of the 8 of Swords. Blindfolded and bound, unaware of the way out that was right in front of me at the time. Tragedy wasn’t the answer, opening my eyes was. 

I needed to see the World. I needed to view the fulfillment you can achieve by waking up. I couldn’t feel whole without getting out of my own head. And once I did, the magic happened. 

If this sounds like you, and you love tragedy, and negativity follows you, it’s time to step back. Every time you feel down, think of your mental state. You are your own prisoner; you can open the cell at any time. Get out of your head, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2: Episode 9

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Season 2, Episode 9 is live! Today’s interview is with Emily Heather, aka the Voluptuous Witch! In this episode we discuss Libra and Scorpio season, how to stay active in your community, and manifestation over different social classes.

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ThursdayThinks: Style Your Mind

IMG_4640Cara Alwill Leyba, who was a guest recently on my podcast, has a brand centered around the concept “Style Your Mind.” With a book and a podcast under this name, it got me thinking exactly what styling MY mind means to me.

So, on Monday we spoke about rerouting yourself to positivity over negativity, and I think that can be done with your own style/ identity. Which brings me to this weeks exercise, on creating a stylishly YOU avatar as a reference.

My style changes all the time, because I am constantly evolving. Sometimes I want to dress like Mama Ru in day drag and take selfies in bathroom mirrors. And sometimes I want to wear long flowing black dresses and sing Stevie Nicks under naked trees. But what stays the same for the longest is who I really want to show up as at my core.

So for this weeks exercise, I want you to create an avatar of exactly what YOUR style is and how to honor that with your  mindset.

What do I mean by this?

Let’s start superficially. What does your ideal you look like? What does she wear? Is her hair pulled back taut and strong, or free flowing and long? What is her first impression?

Next, what does your ideal you sound like? Does she have a strong voice? Does she ask questions? Does she sit back and observe? What is her presence??

Next, what does she do? Does she have a kick ass career? Is she an artist? Is she both? Does she play in the park? Does she drink daytime champagne? What is she all about?

And lastly, what is her thought process? Is she super ambitious? Or is she a self care queen? Is she in the middle? Does she honor all of her thoughts equally? Or does she have down days where she needs to recover? Does she speak 7 languages? Is she a taxidermy expert? What goes on in her brain??

When you do this exercise, you’re going to carve out someone to use as a benchmark that is uniquely your idol. There is no perfection. There is only perfectly YOU. And when you have a day where you feel lost, or when you feel out of control, you can say, “What would avatar Shawn do in this instance?”

Its a fun exercise, and you can even make a symbol for her and write her everywhere as a reminder. Get creative, dream big, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 8

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Season 2, Episode 8 is live! Today I’m coming to you solo answering some listener Q&A’s, from my own spiritual practice, to hammering down your values, to rerouting a negative perspective!

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The Call is Coming From Inside the House

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I talk a lot about beliefs versus truths here, and RuPaul always says this phrase on his podcast so I thought I’d use it as my topic for this week. When he says, “The call is coming from inside the house,” he’s referring to your negative self talk holding you back, based  on an old 70’s film titled When a Stranger Calls. The movie SPOILER centers around a baby sitter, played by Carol Kane, who keeps receiving strange and threatening phone calls. The stalker would consistently call and harass her, only to find out that when the call is traced, it’s coming from inside the house. The metaphor exists in this: it isn’t what is happening outside in reality, it is what you have held onto as your belief system that is the means for sabotage.

I recently performed a tarot spread for a reader who was frustrated with her creative blocks. She didn’t know why she couldn’t share her creations with the world. And although she reached out to me to consult my cards, the first phrase that popped into my head was “The call is coming from inside the house.” And, as I would have imagined, the cards echoed that loud and clear.

Fear is merely a byproduct of our overthinking. Yes, there are some real elements to fear, like physical danger, that our instincts will do our best to protect us from. But on a day to day basis, we mostly have constructed a belief system that masquerades as protecting us. It keeps us hidden in the house and isolated. It keeps us locked in one very accessible spot. Instead of letting us explore the options to make a systematic escape, we cower. All because of our own “truths.”

I’ve explained this before, but it bears repeating. Your belief system is constructed of things you’ve picked up throughout your life that have a significant emotion attached to it. For example, once I was wearing a dress with polka dots on it and a mean girl called me fat in an Urban Outfitters. Guess what belief manifested? Never wear polka dots.

Is that irrational? Totally. But if you don’t have the tools to separate emotion with sound reasoning (like when you’ve just hit puberty and you don’t know how to dress for your new boobs and slight pudge) that devastation will stay with you as a “truth.” So the next time you walk into Target and see some adorable polka dot romper, you’ll get a call that says “Don’t wear that, it’ll make you look fat.” And when you trace it, it won’t be coming from a mean girl. It’ll be coming from you. Because the more you repeat it, the more it becomes your own words.

There needs to be destruction, much like the Tower portends, in order to grow past these outdated beliefs. You need to trace that call back, aaallllll the way back, and have a real conversation with who’s on the other end. Why did you hold onto so tightly what the mean Urban Outfitters girl said? Why did it hurt you so much? Is it actually true? Or is it something you can let go of?

These kinds of questions and lines of reasoning can lead to the emotional security of the Queen of Cups. Holding onto fearful language and damaging beliefs only sits your house on a rocky foundation. In order to be truly rooted, your beliefs and values must exist in confidence and logic. Not on insults that you’re afraid of.

So next time you feel held back or restricted, take a long hard look at why these exist in your brain. Why have you decided to protect yourself by rehashing illogical statements? Is it still serving you? Don’t you WANT to wear polka dots???

Start tracing those calls, wear the polka dots proudly, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 4

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Season 2, Episode 4 is live! Every fourth episode I like to get up close and personal with my gals, so this one is a solo!

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Season 2 Episode 3

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Season 2, Episode 3 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with soul-recovery coach, Jennifer Pennington! We talk about creativity in the destruction of what doesn’t serve you and dancing every day! Find her on Instagram or on her Facebook!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Abundance, Alignment, and Other Jargon You Don’t Understand

In a day and age where magic and witchery has become culturally accepted, and even glorified, I’ve been noticing a surge of manifestation jargon that has people putting a bunch of unnecessary pressure on themselves.  I get people asking “Why isn’t my life perfect? I thought I was aligned??” or “Bad shit keeps happening to me, I must have an energy block!”

But here’s the deal with that: all of this talk is basically self shame with a glittery filter and the universe as a scape goat. And I know that isn’t fun to hear from me, because we like to talk about magic over here, but the core of what I try to instill in women is that life is shitty sometimes, and it will throw you curve balls. What I coach women to achieve is the ability to handle it all in stride.

Yes, it is true that the universe gives out the energy it receives, so when you are in a positive alignment your life will become more abundant. But let me break that down for those of you who don’t understand those terms. Alignment refers to your chakras, or energy centers, and describes free flowing positive energy among the seven points along your body. However, it is a term thats thrown around and misused because it is kind of shaming. It doesn’t really allow for the human emotions that we feel throughout our lives. No, not everyday is going to be a spiritual day. No, not every day we are going to be happy and whistling down the street. And that is OK. That is just part of the human experience.

And abundance will come to you when you have your shit together. It definitely does. But this is also a chicken before the egg situation. When things are going good, you feel good, and the cycle continues.

So, the point I’m trying to make here is, when things aren’t going your way, or even when we experience something life altering like the Tower, we need not BLAME our alignment or the universe. We need to ask ourselves what lesson is needing to be learned. Focusing on “alignment” is such a nuanced and misdirected use of our energy. If we focus on the lesson, we become aligned.

What we’re trying to achieve here is the wholeness of the World. But, much like the Major Arcana, we must travel through the journey to get there. We must live as the Fool, go forward, die, be reborn, and seek out our mysteries and lessons. And then, my friends, we do it all over again, and again, and again.

So, the moral of the story is, don’t get down on yourself or obsess over alignment. Noticing patterns will ultimately help you get to that aligned state. Look at the details and the lesson, and the universe will reward you greatly. Take off the pressure, and stay witchy ( *)