What is a “Calling” and Do I Have One?

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The Fool symbolizes the beginning of a journey. A bright, shiny-eyed fellow who is setting forth on a path that is completely and utterly new. One with purpose and one full of lessons to be learned. He is all of us.

If you’re a young, ambitious individual, it’s not surprising that you might have been faced with the question “What is my life purpose?” The insurmountable pressure of having one thing you were set on earth to do. What it’s all for.

Nietzsche has a quote: “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” And I think that surmises what we are all looking for. A reason to muscle through the cold, lonely days of our journey. Not to be mistaken for love, because we know that is not a completion of our circle, but rather the addition of one in the form of a bond. No, this is a personal “why.” This is what we dream of when we are little girls and little boys. This is the “why” that made Mother Teresa run homes for the diseased. This is the “why” that made Jonas Salk invent the Polio vaccine. “Why” Elie Wiesel took his horrific experiences in Auschwitz and turned them into inspiring stories and a Nobel Peace Prize.

Now not everyone can run to Uganda and cure Zika. Although if we all sought out to cure diseases that would be pretty kick ass. We can’t all write Grammy winning albums or star in Oscar winning roles. We can’t all write best sellers and we can’t all win the Fields Medal. But everyday we have choices to make, and making the right ones are indicative of our purpose.

See, I think that if we all strive to make conscious decisions that feel right and true within our sphere of authenticity, our purpose will be handed to us on a silver platter. In fact, I think that is the purpose in it of itself. Instead of having one solid concrete thing that we must stick to for the rest of our lives, which seems to be more of a shackle than a path to greatness, at every turn we are given an opportunity to think with conviction and at that time our purpose is highlighted. Our purpose morphs and bends to the person we are at that very moment, and if self respect and self love are things that you practice regularly, that authentic light will shine through. That purpose, that pattern, that character, that will be the guide in your journey. That will be your “why.” It’s what is inside you.

When I got the help I needed and put into practice all of the tools that I gained from my support, I slowly started to make conscious decisions that benefited me and felt right and true to my core. No longer did I have a gaping hole of panic in me. I was sticking up for myself. And through the trail of conviction, though not always perfect, I started to find seeds of what was hidden beneath the wreckage. I listened to myself and felt called to start writing. And although I don’t put the pressure on myself to say that this is it for me forever, right now it feels true. And that’s what the journey is all about.

So if you’re getting down on yourself for not having it all figured out, well let me tell you something: No one does. Not even Oprah.

But what people like her do that is so inspirational is that they seize every opportunity authentically. That’s the calling. And if we all have the capacity to be authentic, we all have a life purpose. Live true to yours and stay witchy ( *)

 

The “Should” Factor

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The Tower card represents a structure that, under pressure, will crumble. And essentially, this is what happens internally when you only focus on what you “should” do rather that what you want.

Feeling pressured to do something isn’t out of the ordinary for any of us. There are constant environmental pressures that we cannot escape. The external will always find a way to mold our internal by the way it sees fit. Or rather, our stories that we invent ABOUT the external will manipulate our “should.”

Unfortunately, we restrict ourselves when we succumb to these pressures. Feeling like we “should” do something instead of actually following what we want to do, we lose sight of ourselves and start to feel unfulfilled.

I “should” stay in this job for xyz. I “shouldn’t” ask this person on a date for xyz. I “should” feel this way because of xyz.

If any of these things sound familiar, you have experienced pressures that hinder you from living life to its fullest.

Living fully and expressing yourself means doing what you want to (under reasonable parameters, obviously.) So when you invent these “should”s because of your assumption of your environment, you hold yourself back from not only reality, but the possibility of greatness.

So get brave and remember to stay witchy ( *)

Loving the Skin You’re In

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This topic deserves a lot more time than I can give it at this moment, but I feel compelled to write about it after spending 15 frantic minutes tearing apart my closet to find something I felt good in.

You know when you have those days where nothing fits and your face doesn’t look right and your hair won’t do what it’s supposed to do?

Well fuck those days. They are all in your head.

I just had to sit in quiet contemplation for 5 minutes, breathe, and meditate, to realize I was projecting my anxieties on my mirror. Some days we aren’t so confident. And some days we are. We just have to stay on top of our self worth and not worry so much. We need to look in the mirror, breathe, and be our own cheerleaders. Because I bet the girl you see walking down the street looking like she has it all together has days just like this.

Putting too much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way on any given day is literally killing us. The stress can be unbearable at times. And honestly, its just not that big of a deal.

Now, I’m not saying just roll out of bed, or run around town looking homeless, but if you practice basic human hygiene, feel comfortable in what you’re wearing, and present yourself with grace and class, that is the best outfit anyone can wear.

Over and out witches ( *)