Boundaries in Business

IMG_5186It’s one thing to invest in yourself, change your life for the better, and heal with intention. I was on that journey a few years ago and am so happy I made the decision to do so.

However, it’s an entirely different story to make this path into your business.

I’ve worked with quite a few women who signed up with me in a heartbeat and started transforming their lives in the exact same way that I did. But, what I’ve been seeing a lot of lately is the hemming and hawing of people who aren’t ready to make the leap. The questions of price and discounts and freebies. Interested parties that know they need the help but just don’t want to invest.

And, as an empath, I used to cater to these people early in my business. In fact, I have up until very recently. I used to (and still do, to some degree) understand the inability to pay for coaching or even an ebook. I remembered the excuses I used to make to get in the way of my own development, so I would I try to help people that are in the same static place that I was three years ago. But I’ve learned now that there needs to be a boundary in place to protect my light and give it to those that see the value in my work.

You see, the difference between my clients now (and me three years ago) and the girls looking for handouts, is that we knew what we needed to do to get out of our deep, dark rut, and we went for it. It wasn’t a question of price or package. It was a question of life or death.

And much like Death, we knew we had to invest a piece of ourselves for transformational change. It didn’t matter, because the value was priceless. Recently I’ve just had my own death and rebirth, in which I realized more firm boundaries need to be kept in place.

The Emperor comes to mind as I enact a more masculine flow of energy to the business side of my coaching practice. Yes, the nurturing, feminine ability I have as an empath is a beautiful gift, but when not balanced with masculine boundaries, you fall prey to those who want to take advantage of you.

So if this sounds familiar, and you, like me, are lacking clients because of your own empathy, it’s time to wake up and stand up for yourself and your business. And if you are a person who needs help but only wants it for free, realize that you’re only going to receive back what you put in, and there isn’t much reward from nothing. Invest in yourself, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Season 2: Episode 12

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Season 2, Episode 12 is live! And this is the last episode of the season!!!!!!!

I’m coming to you solo today to discuss creatively switching up your thought process and how it can lead to successful manifestation. I thought it would be a great way to tie up the season, and I even have a surprise announcement at the end of the episode!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Rerouting Conversations

img_4630The theme in my life the past two months has been of negativity, paranoia, and betrayal. What fun is that?!

In fact, it’s come to my attention that a lot of my interactions with friends has been circling around complaints and assumptions. That, my dear sweets, is a recipe for disaster.

Here’s how it all starts: you get thrust into a new environment, it takes some time to adjust, and you’re absorbing absorbing absorbing. Unfortunately, the energy circling around is negative, and you become a dark sponge after a while. All of the verbiage that is bestowed on you becomes apart of your vernacular. You start becoming part of the problem.

And quite honestly, I’m not one to deal with negativity well. I don’t think many people are, but as an empath I find it excruciating. I act out because it feels like a physical weight.

But to take a step back and see things through the looking glass, as they actually are, you can put things in their proper box and step over it. You can triumph in the wake of something that isn’t serving you emotionally, but may be in other ways (i.e. financially.)

What the plan is, going forward, is to re-route and re-direct. Although I hate to admit that it’s taken me this long to figure out the solution, I arrived at the destination and that’s all that matters. This is why I suggest everyone get a life coach: then you don’t have to figure it all out yourself 😉

As the reversed position of the Seven of Swords suggests, it’s time to break through the mental challenges. At the end of the day, we are the only ones standing in our way, and it’s as simple as flipping a switch. No, it doesn’t seem simple in the beginning, but if you keep at it, and combat one negative thought with three positive ones, you’re already beating the system.

Use the Chariot as a guide to control your thoughts. If you see that you are taking part in a conversation that is complain-y or negative, either consciously reroute the conversation, or simply leave. The fact that you INTENTIONALLY are steering clear of negativity is the biggest and most important part.

No this isn’t that easy. Yes it will take practice. But putting intentional positivity into the universe will yield insane results in your life. No one enjoys a spiral. No one wants to be a Negative Nancy. So notice, stop, redirect, and stay witchy ( *)

 

 

 

 

 

 

WednesdayWisdoms: Positive Reframing

Today we’re going to practice an essential skill for life in general, but more specifically, those really tough times.

Like mentioned in the previous blog post, it can be really difficult to look at the positive in trying times. But that is why we have a tool called positive reframing.

Positive reframing takes your current situation, asks you to look at it with an objective viewpoint, and then find the positive amongst the difficult. If you are going through it right now, ask yourself some of the questions below and see if you come out with a new outlook.

  1. How will this make me stronger?’
  2. What can I learn from this?
  3. How can I best show up in this situation to have it align with my values?
  4. What are the benefits?

I know it’s difficult, and what we really want to do is wrap ourself up in our pity blanket, but if you practice positive reframing on a daily basis, you will literally change the way you brain works! You are actively programming your brain to focus on the positive. And it will get easier the more you practice.

Get positive, and stay witchy ( *)

Showing Up with the Right Attitude

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Have you ever had a day where you dreaded going to work? Or had an event you really didn’t want to go to? Well, so has everyone else. However, if you show up with a good attitude, you might find some silver linings.

The power of a positive attitude is unsurpassed. Taking a minute for some deep breathing, concentrating on being positive, and letting the negativity go has a lot of rewards. For one, it alleviates stress. Two, it it helps you gain an opposite perspective. Going into something undesirable with a negative attitude only makes the situation twice as unbearable. If you have an (at least) neutral attitude about said event, you will have a better time because you’ve opened yourself up to it.

Much like a magician, you have the power to change your attitude. It takes a little bit of work at first, but after that, its just a little reminder. I, for one, like meditation and mantras. Those serve as my time for reminders. And they always will. Because being automatically positive 100% of the time is not only unattainable, but its fake. So to strive for that is really far-fetched.

Working on having a positive attitude one day at a time reaps a lot of benefits. People want to be around positive people, don’t you? So stay positive, and stay witchy ( *)