WednesdayWisdoms: Releasing the Negative

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When shitty things happen to you, and they will through the course of your life, you have two clear routes to take. As discussed in the previous post, you can turn to whiney victimhood, or to raw vulnerability that helps you move on in an organic way.

But before you get to this fork in the road, there is a long stretch of grieving. Some of us know how to grieve, in fact, we’re seasoned professionals. Some of us others, however, would rather push the grief down or aside until it takes the wheel as an act of rebellion,  and we’re forced down the road of panicky, inconsistent victimhood.

So for all of the events, people, pets, homes, jobs, or traumas you never got to grieve, I have an exercise in purging some of the anger that leads us down the back alley of victimhood.

We’re going to write down everything we wish we could have said “no” to.

I suggest Post-it notes or index cards. You want to write each specific event on a card of it’s own. We aren’t making a list, we’re giving individual space to each shitty life event.

There is no need to journal on this either. Give your event a title, and as you write it down, imagine what it would look like if you could have said “no” to this particular event.

Then, for each card, I want you to burn it (safely!) over an open flame. As you do, say the following:

“I cannot change the past, but I can re-route my future. I accept the reality of the present, and release my anger towards ___________”

This should help to begin a revolutionary healing process. Acceptance is the final stage of grief in the Kübler- Ross Grief Cycle. But we must move through the other six stages in order to get there.

What I find people hang on to the most in grief is guilt and anger. This ritual should alleviate some of those feelings so you can continue your journey inward, and then onward. Stay strong, and, as always, stay witchy ( *)

Showing Up with the Right Attitude

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Have you ever had a day where you dreaded going to work? Or had an event you really didn’t want to go to? Well, so has everyone else. However, if you show up with a good attitude, you might find some silver linings.

The power of a positive attitude is unsurpassed. Taking a minute for some deep breathing, concentrating on being positive, and letting the negativity go has a lot of rewards. For one, it alleviates stress. Two, it it helps you gain an opposite perspective. Going into something undesirable with a negative attitude only makes the situation twice as unbearable. If you have an (at least) neutral attitude about said event, you will have a better time because you’ve opened yourself up to it.

Much like a magician, you have the power to change your attitude. It takes a little bit of work at first, but after that, its just a little reminder. I, for one, like meditation and mantras. Those serve as my time for reminders. And they always will. Because being automatically positive 100% of the time is not only unattainable, but its fake. So to strive for that is really far-fetched.

Working on having a positive attitude one day at a time reaps a lot of benefits. People want to be around positive people, don’t you? So stay positive, and stay witchy ( *)