Season 2 Episode 8

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Season 2, Episode 8 is live! Today I’m coming to you solo answering some listener Q&A’s, from my own spiritual practice, to hammering down your values, to rerouting a negative perspective!

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The Call is Coming From Inside the House

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I talk a lot about beliefs versus truths here, and RuPaul always says this phrase on his podcast so I thought I’d use it as my topic for this week. When he says, “The call is coming from inside the house,” he’s referring to your negative self talk holding you back, based  on an old 70’s film titled When a Stranger Calls. The movie SPOILER centers around a baby sitter, played by Carol Kane, who keeps receiving strange and threatening phone calls. The stalker would consistently call and harass her, only to find out that when the call is traced, it’s coming from inside the house. The metaphor exists in this: it isn’t what is happening outside in reality, it is what you have held onto as your belief system that is the means for sabotage.

I recently performed a tarot spread for a reader who was frustrated with her creative blocks. She didn’t know why she couldn’t share her creations with the world. And although she reached out to me to consult my cards, the first phrase that popped into my head was “The call is coming from inside the house.” And, as I would have imagined, the cards echoed that loud and clear.

Fear is merely a byproduct of our overthinking. Yes, there are some real elements to fear, like physical danger, that our instincts will do our best to protect us from. But on a day to day basis, we mostly have constructed a belief system that masquerades as protecting us. It keeps us hidden in the house and isolated. It keeps us locked in one very accessible spot. Instead of letting us explore the options to make a systematic escape, we cower. All because of our own “truths.”

I’ve explained this before, but it bears repeating. Your belief system is constructed of things you’ve picked up throughout your life that have a significant emotion attached to it. For example, once I was wearing a dress with polka dots on it and a mean girl called me fat in an Urban Outfitters. Guess what belief manifested? Never wear polka dots.

Is that irrational? Totally. But if you don’t have the tools to separate emotion with sound reasoning (like when you’ve just hit puberty and you don’t know how to dress for your new boobs and slight pudge) that devastation will stay with you as a “truth.” So the next time you walk into Target and see some adorable polka dot romper, you’ll get a call that says “Don’t wear that, it’ll make you look fat.” And when you trace it, it won’t be coming from a mean girl. It’ll be coming from you. Because the more you repeat it, the more it becomes your own words.

There needs to be destruction, much like the Tower portends, in order to grow past these outdated beliefs. You need to trace that call back, aaallllll the way back, and have a real conversation with who’s on the other end. Why did you hold onto so tightly what the mean Urban Outfitters girl said? Why did it hurt you so much? Is it actually true? Or is it something you can let go of?

These kinds of questions and lines of reasoning can lead to the emotional security of the Queen of Cups. Holding onto fearful language and damaging beliefs only sits your house on a rocky foundation. In order to be truly rooted, your beliefs and values must exist in confidence and logic. Not on insults that you’re afraid of.

So next time you feel held back or restricted, take a long hard look at why these exist in your brain. Why have you decided to protect yourself by rehashing illogical statements? Is it still serving you? Don’t you WANT to wear polka dots???

Start tracing those calls, wear the polka dots proudly, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 6

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Season 2, Episode 6 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with Jocelyn Zahn! We talk about diet culture, using creativity in the kitchen, and how changing your diet can help beat depression. Find her on Instagram or on her website!

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ThursdayThinks: Practicing Surrender to Get What You Want

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(FYI, exercises are coming on Thursdays now ( *))

On Monday we talked a bit about how the need for control can actually be getting in your own way in terms of manifestation. So, how do we step out of the way? How do we surrender?

Well, it’s definitely a work in progress, but the very first thing you can do is try to find out where your control stems from. Make a list of all of your beliefs surrounding money and do some digging around them.

For example, your list could look like this:

  • I never have enough money
  • Money is the root of all evil
  • I have to fight everyday so I am not poor

These beliefs could breed some powerful actions that will tell the Universe to go “Fuck off,” and the Universe doesn’t really like that. So, you perpetuate a sense of poverty.

If you believe you never have enough money, there is a lack of gratitude. That is a huge block. So, the solution? Thank the universe for what you DO have everyday. Write a gratitude list. Make it a part of your routine.

If you believe money is inherently “bad,” you’re creating a block around it to protect yourself. Instead of becoming “evil,” you’ve placed a limit around yourself for the amount of money you’ll ever make. To combat this, you’ll need to start searching for the good in money. It is just a tool after all. It doesn’t make people evil; it’s just a resource. Try to research some top philanthropists to prove it to yourself 🙂 Just look at what Bill Gates is doing!

And finally, if you feel that you have to fight for survival, then you WILL fight for survival. Making the act of earning money into a battle isn’t serving you. The best way to start breaking down this belief is to create a budget. Now you’ll know exactly what you need to make for any given day, month, week, etc. And when you work to earn this amount, make it FUN and be grateful you even have the opportunity to hustle! Once you reframe your ideas around money from battle to banquet, the Universe will answer.

These are just a few ways you can start to break down your money blocks. Pay attention to every thought and every action. It is important to be conscious when trying to manifest. Get wealthy and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 4

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Season 2, Episode 4 is live! Every fourth episode I like to get up close and personal with my gals, so this one is a solo!

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Abundance, Alignment, and Other Jargon You Don’t Understand

In a day and age where magic and witchery has become culturally accepted, and even glorified, I’ve been noticing a surge of manifestation jargon that has people putting a bunch of unnecessary pressure on themselves.  I get people asking “Why isn’t my life perfect? I thought I was aligned??” or “Bad shit keeps happening to me, I must have an energy block!”

But here’s the deal with that: all of this talk is basically self shame with a glittery filter and the universe as a scape goat. And I know that isn’t fun to hear from me, because we like to talk about magic over here, but the core of what I try to instill in women is that life is shitty sometimes, and it will throw you curve balls. What I coach women to achieve is the ability to handle it all in stride.

Yes, it is true that the universe gives out the energy it receives, so when you are in a positive alignment your life will become more abundant. But let me break that down for those of you who don’t understand those terms. Alignment refers to your chakras, or energy centers, and describes free flowing positive energy among the seven points along your body. However, it is a term thats thrown around and misused because it is kind of shaming. It doesn’t really allow for the human emotions that we feel throughout our lives. No, not everyday is going to be a spiritual day. No, not every day we are going to be happy and whistling down the street. And that is OK. That is just part of the human experience.

And abundance will come to you when you have your shit together. It definitely does. But this is also a chicken before the egg situation. When things are going good, you feel good, and the cycle continues.

So, the point I’m trying to make here is, when things aren’t going your way, or even when we experience something life altering like the Tower, we need not BLAME our alignment or the universe. We need to ask ourselves what lesson is needing to be learned. Focusing on “alignment” is such a nuanced and misdirected use of our energy. If we focus on the lesson, we become aligned.

What we’re trying to achieve here is the wholeness of the World. But, much like the Major Arcana, we must travel through the journey to get there. We must live as the Fool, go forward, die, be reborn, and seek out our mysteries and lessons. And then, my friends, we do it all over again, and again, and again.

So, the moral of the story is, don’t get down on yourself or obsess over alignment. Noticing patterns will ultimately help you get to that aligned state. Look at the details and the lesson, and the universe will reward you greatly. Take off the pressure, and stay witchy ( *)

Eliminating Shame from Sexuality

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When there is shame surrounding a topic, it takes something that should be beautiful and makes it seedy. It strips away all of the magic. It creates a dark air around it. And this is just as true for sex as any other taboo subject.

So, what can we do to eliminate the shame surrounding sex? How can we embrace our sexuality and live as sacred sexual beings day to day? Follow these tips to replace shame with confidence:

  1. Watch porn that suits you: 
    • A lot of the reason why people feel shame around sex is because they can’t relate themselves to feeling sexy. It’s almost as if it’s off limits because they subconsciously can’t see themselves as deserving. If this is part of your problem, I suggest watching porn with people that look like you that do what you like. There is so much on the internet with people of all colors, sexual preferences, body types, etc, that empowers the art of pleasure on every conceivable level. Watching realistic porn, instead of overly aggressive porn-star-porn, might help to add an inclusionary ideal to your own sex life.
  2. When appropriate, talk about it:
    • There’s nothing that takes the air out of a shame-tire like plain old words. Start talking about sex freely. Ask your girlfriends what their experiences are like. Ask your partner what they enjoy between the sheets. Open the dialogue and ask questions. Secrets are the main food source for shame, so take away it’s meal plan and start talking about it!
  3. Masterbate:
    • Getting acquainted with your body and learning what sets you on fire is a great way to eliminate shame. Our bodies are wired to react a certain way to stimulation. It’s natural! So learn what get’s you off and be proud of it!
  4. Confront what makes you uncomfortable: 
    • Do you shudder when you hear the word “vagina?” Do you want to run and hide at the idea of anal? What makes you want to duck for cover? Start taking note of your reactions to sex-related things and then do your research. I find that the more educated you are on a subject, the more comfortable you’ll feel about it.
  5. Allow yourself to feel sexy:
    • Dressing sexy is a big thing for me. I feel empowered when I can flaunt my sexuality and own it. However, that may be too bold for some. In that case, there are a myriad of more subtle approaches. Wear a new shade of lipstick, challenge yourself to wear a pair of heels, or sport some lingerie under your jeans and t-shirt. There are many undercover ways to embrace your inner goddess, and implementing them into your daily life will start to push shame out of the way.

Follow these tips at your own pace and you will start to see a shift from guilt to acceptance. Sex is a natural and beautiful thing, and as long as you do it with respect and consent, there is nothing to be ashamed of! Get your sexy on and stay witchy ( *)