Season 3 Episode 3

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Welcome back to the WAYIYJ Podcast!!!

Season 3, Episode 3 is live!

I’m coming to you today with Brigit Esselmont, Australia based Tarot Reader, to talk about starting up the world wide leader in Tarot meanings! We discuss what it’s like building an empire, lifting up beginner readers, and how to strategize what will sell best for your brand.

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Synchronicity and Our Role in Our Universe

With this highly intuitive and mystical full moon coming up in Pisces, I thought it only appropriate to talk about paying attention to our surroundings and listening to the direction of the universe.

What is synchronicity, you ask? In it’s most simplistic form, it was Carl Jung’s effort to explain the unexplainable. Described as “meaningful coincidences,” it catalogues the relationships between seemingly unrelated things with a similar message. So let’s say that I decided to swear off wearing heels because I fell and scraped my knee after getting a stiletto caught in a subway grate. Then, upon walking past the local Payless, I see a sale on orthopedic flats. Coincidence? Maybe. Synchronicity? Yes.

The best way that I can explain this phenomenon is by harnessing a willingness to receive messages from the universe with open eyes. This takes a kind of un-conditioning, however:

As humans, visual beings, we receive millions of units of stimuli through our eyes and to our brain at any given moment. Because that is a hell of a lot to process at once, we’ve narrowed down what we, throughout our lives, have deemed “important.” This is a pretty keen survival mechanism. Certain things stand out to us for survival reasons. And that is what we’ve chosen to observe over ALL of the other things zooming past us at any given moment.

But, what if you channeled the High Priestess and looked through your third eye? What if you looked for what you needed, rather than what you expected? What if your perception aligned with your beliefs, rather than self-limiting stories?

I could make a case for any side of any story with the gathering of evidence. And that is what we do in our day to day. Most of us use the Moon to gather evidence to support our anxieties. We’d like to live in a world where our deep set fears are consistently proven, because to know otherwise would flip us upside-down and empty our proverbial pockets. But if we, just one tiny slice of evidence at a time, tried to convince ourselves of the gorgeous fact that we live in a perfectly abundant world, we could, one tiny slice of evidence at a time, make the world a better place.

It’s a lot to consume, I know, but stay tuned for Wednesdays exercise. I want everyone to try it and comment their findings. Stay tuned in, and stay witchy ( *)

Balancing Your Shadow Self With Your Outward Self

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Your true desires are often carried out by impulses, which don’t think of the big picture. Acting in this way lands you in hot water, and then scars you because you’re afraid to take another leap. So, what do we do to take careful steps around achieving what our shadow self wants the most for us? See the examples below on how to achieve balance.

Family

  • The desire: To have a path of clear communication and understanding in your family.
  • The impulse: To snap at a family member when you don’t think they understand you
  • Why that doesn’t work: Fighting a misunderstanding with a lack of compassion of your own is counter-productive.
  • The solution: When you’re sensing an escalation of sorts, try to understand from their side by asking questions. Approach the situation in a well rounded manner, and ask that they do the same for you. Set boundaries around what you will allow into your life, cut a conversation short if nothing is being achieved, then revisit later.

Work

  • The desire: To make more money, get a promotion, and flourish in your position.
  • The impulse: To take any and all extra work to prove that you can get it all done.
  • Why that doesn’t work: Overloading yourself will almost always mean that you are spreading yourself too thin. You work will not be as thorough as if you only took on what you could actually handle, and you run the risk of burning out.
  • The solution: Only accept what you can physically handle. Knowing your limits commands respect, and so does quality work.

Relationships

  • The desire: To have a happy and healthy relationship.
  • The impulse: To choose the first person who pays attention to you.
  • Why that doesn’t work: An ideal mate is not just anyone. You have to consult a careful observation before jumping into something serious.
  • The solution: Create a list of values your mate must have and do not make excuses. If loyalty is a value, don’t make excuses for him texting another girl, just because he’s also texting you. These values are non-negotiable. This approach takes time, and you deserve to be with someone who not only respects you, but is who you truly desire.

These examples are obviously not one-size-fits-all, but they are good jumping off points to consider when we act impulsively. It is hard to be patient, but that is essential for us to live our ideal life. Patience and discipline will lead to a high reward from the universe. Channel the desires of your shadow self in a healthy way, and stay witchy ( *)

Finding Harmony Between Instinct and Ego

Inner turmoil begins and ends with imbalance. When your intuition says one thing, but your impulses scream another, we find ourselves stuck in the crossfire, and quite often, take a bullet.

This eclipse season has been a time for great reflection and transformation. But, it is a lot of energy to deal with if you aren’t in the correct headspace to do so. So, how do we channel it and figure out what needs work in our lives?

Well, when we are constantly running into situations that end up in hurt, be it friendships, relationships, or work, it’s usually because of a miscommunication between the ego and our instincts. Our ego wants us to fulfill our desires quickly and without strategy, and our intuition is built into us as a means of survival.

When you get into a relationship or new job without careful consultation of your intuition, there’s a HUGE chance that you missed some red flags. And when those red flags turn into flame throwers, it’s time to take responsibility for the things that we’ve overlooked.

Take the High Priestess as your spirit guide. Consult with your gut before you move ahead with matters of the heart OR your pocket. Your gut is not your anxiety. It’s not your heart. It’s not your ego. It is the thing that tells you to look past a shiny facade. Take full account of what you’re actually seeing and TRUST it. If you get an icky feeling about a person or opportunity, but you hush it away because you think you know better, I’m telling you right now that you don’t.

Temperance is key in these matters. Balance between your ego and your intuition. Your ego WANTS the best for you. It wants your wishes fulfilled and to see you soar. But, like a kid in a candy store, will over look the end result of getting sick from shoveling down sweets. Your intuition KNOWS what will keep you safe, and the harmony between the two will send you vibrating higher than you’ve ever imagined. Stay balanced, and stay witchy ( *)

 

From Folklore to Reality: How Do We Use Intuition in Everyday Life?

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The High Priestess shows her dominion over pure intuition. As we read in fairy tales and folklore, we see old witches guide young princesses with their all knowing and all feminine counsel.

We are told through stories that all women have this power of intuition. That if we just tap into our sixth sense we can see through danger and navigate in a wise and wondrous way. But with all of the noise and a collection of “truths” throughout our lives, what does this look like in a modern day reality?

Now I know not everyone reading this blog is going to light incense and candles and meditate to clear their head (although I highly recommend it) but doing some soul searching and practicing self help is going to get you started on that path. Stripping away all of the collected nonsense to get you back to your authentic self will help in your journey to being intuitive. Listening to your gut is a very important guide; your body knows more than you do.

So, metaphorically, when you’re faced with evil stepsisters or a tyrannical king, you could be actually up against a group of mean girls or a sour employer. In these situations, you don’t let their truth change yours. You live forward and authentically, and that little light called intuition will help to steer you on the right path, Don’t be afraid to listen to her. Stay witchy ( *)

Shock, Trauma, and the Awesome Feeling of Acceptance

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Straight from the mouth of my favorite website, biddytarot.com, “The Ten of Swords reversed indicates a painful ending which must occur for there to be growth and regeneration.” As you can tell from the bulk of my content, this is a very relatable concept for me.

However, even with growth and regeneration, there is some trauma left behind from the painful ending. While that is normal, it indicates the need to heal.

For example, the other day I ran into my ex on the street. Yup, the one I always write about. After making a pact with myself to stop obsessing over his social media, I thought about him less and less until I kind of forgot how close he lived to me. It seemed like he fell off the face of the earth. Well my earth.

Anyways, it was a completely unavoidable collision at this point. Our relationship, while tumultuous, ended even more dramatically, and in all fairness my participation was, at times, just as dirty as his. So we DO NOT TALK. And seeing him a hundred feet in front of me with no where to go was like seeing the accident happening before your eyes and just preparing for the crash.

I quickly diverged. Eyes on my phone, frantically trying to keep cool and like I didn’t even notice him. But the physiological response of a pounding heart and racing thoughts looked like anything but cool from the outside. I tripped over my bags and held my breath, and once we passed each other I high-tailed it, praying that I could keep my head from looking back.

So now I’m like, why the hell was that so difficult? Shouldn’t I be over it by now? I got out, I’m free, my life is big and beautiful now, why am I freaking out???

Well, it’s because of the associated trauma. My mother, in all of her wise motherly ways, told me that I should be happy because he lost out and messed up and I’ve moved on in a healthy way. That I shouldn’t get hung up because I won. And although that is true, pain is energy, and that really never dies. It just depends on how you transfer it; and that depends on if you even know it’s there.

Right before he and I got together, I was sexually assaulted by a stranger. I had to go to the police, the whole shebang. It was completely and utterly traumatizing, and instead of reaching for help, I got black out drunk.

Then I met him. And on our first date, I blacked out as a result of my pattern of behavior, and basically drank my way through our relationship too. I hid an original trauma in drinking and codependency, and then gained new trauma from being totally emotionally robbed by someone I thought I loved.

I never healed in the first place, so I had compounding traumas being tamped down by alcohol. What a damn party.

So this small instance of basically a millisecond of walking past my ex stirred up years of trauma and pressed my anxiety button. The fact that I couldn’t breathe and could barely put one foot in front of the other was a sign of my scars.

My point is, I guess, that emotional wounds are like physical ones. The deeper they are, the longer it takes to heal, and the more likely it will leave a scar. And you have to be OK with the fact that you have a story. My gut instinct was to beat myself up and say “Why did you react that way?? Aren’t you over it??” But in reality, even if I am, it is still not fun to be reminded of trauma’s past. This is why your tribe is so important. My mother, my sister, and my friends got me to a point of exploration and curiosity, and then a step further to acceptance. And you’re always going to need that human connection in your life to help make sense of it all. Keep your coven close, be kind to your scars, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Why Couple Tarot and Self Help?

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The Page of Cups symbolizes the realization of a new part of yourself; the start of your journey in listening to your intuition.

And isn’t that what the journey of self help is in a nut shell?

I’ve recently gotten many questions about this. What does tarot have to do with psychology and personal development? One seems to negate the other. Behavioral science versus “magic” and psychic abilities? Don’t they work against each other?

Well the short answer is no.

Tarot cards are just cards with pictures on them. It is our intuition and interpretation of them that give these cards any meaning. They are not dark forces that cast a shadow on our future. They are merely the vehicle from our subconscious to our conscious explanation.

Think of the Rorschach test, or word association. These are common tools psychologists use to gain deeper insight into their clients. Similarly, the cards work for your clients through pictures and symbols.

If I were to turn the Lovers card over to two different people with two different experiences and two different current romantic standings, it would mean two different things. Same with the Death card, or the Devil.

And those cards have very powerful meanings. If we take something like the above card, the Page of Cups, which loosely represents new beginnings in a creative and emotional sense, it could mean many things for anyone! The real magic comes from our intuition, and what frame of mind we place these cards in.

If you are going through a breakup, or another emotional time in your life, your world will be clouded with thoughts of this event. Everything you see you will relate to your pain. Similarly, if things are going well, you will relate certain cards to your successes.

I truly believe in tarot, but not that the cards are magic. I believe in the transference of energy and the intuition of the reader to the querent. But I also believe that we make our own destiny, and that is when we take the cards meanings and match them up to what we envision our lives to look like. Whether that is positive or negative is all up to you.

So, when looking for an answer, be it with tarot or self help (or both) use your gut as your guide. We inherently know when things are wrong, but sometimes we go through the motions because pain seems normal to us. Trust that initial intuition and you will pull through. Just remember to stay witchy ( *)