Ways to Honor Your Body, Mind, and Soul in the Winter Months

For many of us, it’s hard to slow down when it gets cold. But going against nature and what our body needs causes us unnecessary stress (and sometimes even depression.) Use any of these quick tips to honor hibernation season and preserve your strength to kick ass for the long run, instead of burning out entirely.

  • Know what your body is asking for: Listen, I totally understand that you’ve made a pact with yourself to get up at 5am and work out, but what do you do when you know you’re getting sick? Do you push through it anyways, only to find that you’re sicker for longer after that CrossFit class? Sometimes staying in bed isn’t worth feeling guilty over, and will preserve your health for longer lasting results.
  • Obligations don’t exist: Holiday parties are fun, sure, but they can fill your social calendar to the point of literal anxiety. You’re allowed to say no, and to stay home in your pjs while you warm by the fire. I’m not saying to completely be the Hermit, but also know when to say “no.”
  • If you have to, schedule downtime: Now this might be the type A in me talking, but if it isn’t in my planner, I simply won’t do it. If your schedule is jam packed to that point, I suggest scheduling in a movie at home so you KNOW you have to sit down and relax. Write in “bubble bath” at 8pm and don’t bring your phone. Anything to honor the resting period.
  • Remember gratitude: If you’re so busy with Christmas shopping, holiday parties, work events, etc. that it makes you want to scream, remember to be grateful that you have things going on. You could be one of the humans out there on the street in the snow, and even though it may seem like they’re not doing much, they certainly aren’t relaxing. Be grateful for your busy schedule, and make time for yourself because you have the freedom to do it.

All in all, just remember you’re shooting for longevity, and pushing against your body will not serve you. Mind the seasons, honor rest, and stay witchy ( *)

As The Seasons Change

IMG_5260A big part of being a witch is being receptive to nature, and this past year I have been more aware of the seasons than ever. Growing up in LA, you don’t really have a sense of the seasons because the weather is always great, and I honestly think that was adding to this empty feeling that I had there.

I wasn’t getting the reminders that I so painfully needed.

Two days ago marked the first snowfall here in NYC, and I remembered to go really gentle on myself and use the cue from the weather to slow down and reconnect with my values. Usually during these next three months I have to fight seasonal depression, but this year feels completely different. It feels like honoring myself with a slow pace is exactly what I need.

As with the Hermit, I will be spending more days inside, more days resting, and more days reflecting. With warm sweaters, tea, and love in my heart, I will be remembering what our ancestors would do during the winter solstice. I will honor my animal side and take more naps during hibernation season. I will rest and reflect so that I can blossom in the spring.

The Wheel of Fortune reminds us that things move in cycles, and as with any natural progression, there is a point of stillness. Taking things easy feels right and natural. It is time to recharge our bodies!

And this doesn’t mean I will stop working, or even stop playing. But it does mean my level of consciousness surrounding my body’s adaptability and needs will be heightened. It means there will be no shame in rest.

So remember to listen to your aches and pains. Your sniffles and breath. Because slowing down now will give you longevity later. Stay aware and stay witchy ( *)

Consistency in a Nutshell

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The Magician is all about concentration and action, and if you’ve ever seen someone with a consistent work ethic, it may look to you like they have a magical quality.

Rachel Luna, an ex-Marine and life coach, says it best: consistency is honoring your commitment to yourself. And it really is that cut and dry. When there’s an air of inconsistency, and you feel like you just don’t have enough time to get the work that you need done, it is almost always because you’ve filled your day with things that do not serve you. And rather than watching that fifth episode of Narcos or scrolling through your Instagram explore page, you could be honoring the commitment that you made to yourself to accomplish your goals.

I find it incredibly useful to have a structured schedule for the week. I have days that my blog is supposed to be posted, I have days where I will write and post for My Trending Stories, I have my weekly mornings scheduled to watch the news and work out, and knowing I’ve made those commitments to myself in an organized fashion helps me to stay on top of it. It isn’t witchcraft, it isn’t voodoo, it’s prioritizing. And if you’re anything like me, consistency makes you feel better about your life.

And if you need help in organizing your week, head over to my Products page and print out one of the free weekly planners. It will help in assisting the consistency you’re trying to achieve. Get out there, accomplish your goals, and stay witchy ( *)

The Cycle of People Pleasing

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The Hanged Man reversed is a card of martyrdom and sacrifice. But when these acts aren’t for the greater good, but for the manipulation of others, it can really set you back.

When you are a people pleaser, you will say and do things in order to get people to like you and to keep them liking you. You are not honoring yourself, nor are you creating a relationship in which they respect you. You instead, are manipulating the situation to create a personal utopia in which you can do no wrong. And that is just false.

Further, when you practice people pleasing, you will come across many people who know how to use the word “no,” and this will, in turn, upset you, because they aren’t trying to people please YOU. So instead of just honoring yourself and your needs in the first place, you’ve now created a situation in which you are sacrificing yourself for a person who isn’t speaking your language. And guess what? No one should speak the language of unnecessary self sacrifice.

When you people please, you are putting yourself second. You are exhibiting an inherent belief that your happiness is not worth as much as their happiness, and is therefore unimportant and irrelevant. It is much more important that people like you than for you to set boundaries and say the word no.

If this is something you struggle with, I want you to practice using your voice. Say no to one person this week. Whether it’s for a simple outing you don’t want to go on, an extra lump of work that you just can’t manage, or to picking your friend up from the airport when you have other plans. Just say no, and watch the other persons reaction. I think you’ll be surprised when the world doesn’t cave in. Honor yourself always and stay witchy ( *)