ThursdayThinks: Navigating Family Through the Holidays

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It’s no secret that family knows how to push your buttons. And when they’re all gathered in one place, asking you the same drilling questions or making remarks that are unfair, it could make you want to lash out, drink heavily, or leave.

During this holiday season, use these tips to navigate a family get-together in a peaceful,  copacetic way. It doesn’t have to be a disaster if you’re prepared!

  • Get a buddy- Ok so there’s at least one family member you ADORE right? Make it a point to stick with them, and minimize time with those family members you know will cause a headache.
  • Make yourself useful– Helping out in the kitchen not only makes you look good, but gives you an excuse to busy yourself when you don’t want to answer why you’re not married yet. Being of service to your family while staying out of pressuring conversations is a great way to navigate Thanksgiving dinner.
  • Write a script– If you know there are certain questions coming your way, be prepared with some stock answers so you can be polite, but also not feel overwhelmed.
  • Set boundaries– Following suit, find an exit strategy. When the questions get too drilling and you start to feel bad about yourself, find a way to politely and discreetly exit the conversation with a few things you’ve prepared, like “Oh, there’s Aunt Blanche, I haven’t said hello to her yet!” or “I should really help Dorothy in the kitchen,” or “Rose, I heard you remodeled, would you give me a tour!”
  • Be grateful you have them– This last one is the most important. It’s easy to get annoyed and overwhelmed by family, but the holidays are for being thankful that they exist in the first place. Yes, they might drive you a little nuts, but each one of them has contributed to your life in one way or another, and it would serve you to not only be patient, but grateful.

So, this holiday season, be merry, be prepared, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Merry Christmas Eve!

The Ten of Pentacles is a card of family, tradition, togetherness and affluence, which is perfectly appropriate for the Christmas season! As an admittedly commercial holiday, as opposed to the more spiritual solstice holiday of Yule, it still has many positive messages we can practice.

We go through life alone, for the most part, and in that solitary journey we can find ourselves becoming self involved. Fixating on our own problems and dwelling on past injustices. But when a holiday calls as a reminder to step outside and see your place in the lives of your friends and family, even for a brief moment, you can recognize where your problems lie in the grand scheme of things. 

In other words, don’t sweat the small stuff. Family and friendship, health and happiness, those are the big ticket items. Be reminded of that this holiday season, be merry, and stay witchy ( *)