Happiness Allowance 

 It’s difficult to trust things when they are good, isn’t it?  I find myself asking when the other shoe will drop quite often, and in order to protect myself from disappointment, I’ll allot myself a happiness allowance.  If I’m only so happy, I can only be so disappointed.  But why would you limit your ability…

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It Takes Two

Can you be in a healthy relationship with someone who is not fully healed? The Lovers reversed suggests an imbalance. Some disharmony between the two. But I don’t think it is impossible. Actually, I think the key here is willingness. When we enter into a relationship, we bring our own set of baggage, as our…

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Tales From My Bedroom Floor: Volume 1, The Fat Girl

  Volume 1 for my new project is now up on MyTrendingStories! In this six part series, I go through times that were pivotal in collecting my personal and detrimental belief system, all while crying on my bedroom floor. Go check it out here:  https://mytrendingstories.com/article/tales-from-my-bedroom-floor-volume-1-the-fat-girl/ Stay witchy ( *)

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The Green Eyed Monster

Jealousy is tricky. It will pop up when you least expect it, and proceed to torture and consume you. It becomes an obsession. It is pretty clear, however, that jealousy is just another by-product of insecurity. The “you aren’t good enough” track plays over and over in your head and so you compare yourself to everyone…

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Trauma Resolution

  After rape, feeling safe isn’t easy to come by. And through some interesting research and my favorite podcast, an idea was brought to my attention. You feel unsafe for surface reasons that are obvious, but also a deeper biological reason that isn’t so: you haven’t finished your fight or flight response, and so discomfort…

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Why Can’t You See the Love When it’s Staring You in the Face?

I remember, as a child, feeling quite alone and isolated. I remember a deep, unquenchable thirst for love that I thought I wasn’t getting. I convinced myself that I was not receiving love, and was therefore unworthy of it. I found comfort and solace in pain. But why? My parents loved me. I had a…

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Sexual Trauma and Relationships

The Eight of Swords depicts a feeling of powerlessness, and nothing will make a person feel more powerless than sexual trauma. It’s an indescribable feeling of emptiness from abuse, but it is not the way one has to feel forever. When one holds sexual trauma in their body, they will react to triggers. I’ve written…

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Control Freaks and the Unknown

Reversed, the Emperor denotes excessive control and rigidity. And that sounds super familiar to me. You see, regardless of the self help path that you venture on, you’re bound to revisit some demons. But when you face these demons with the tool belt you’ve stocked up, you’re more able to combat them in a successful…

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Love Addiction vs Codependency

While labels may seem obnoxious and confining, they can be helpful tools in figuring out where you are in your journey and how to correct what isn’t working. So lets go through and take my favorite topic and compare and contrast a love addict from a codependent. First off, love addicts and codeps share a…

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An Apology to My Past Self

Over my few months of writing here at WitchyWisdoms, I’ve come to notice a pattern in some of my posts. When trying to prove a point, through examples and comparisons, I’ll throw my past self under the bus and shame her for the “mess” that she was. And in being quite frank, I did look…

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