ThursdayThinks: Separating Fantasy from Reality (a Checklist)

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Going along with Monday’s theme of separating reality from your beliefs, I thought I’d create a checklist of questions to ask yourself when faced with such a dilemma. How do you know when you’re seeing things as they are, or merely dancing with the proverbial pink elephant?

It’s helpful to do a line of investigation when anxiety builds. Am I anxious because of the actual situation? Or because of a set of beliefs I’ve built AROUND the situation? Follow these questions the next time you’re faced with that unsavory anxiety and see if it doesn’t shed some light on your feelings around it. Let’s take going on a job interview, for example:

Ok, so you’re nervous about your big interview. So nervous that it might get in the way of success, which makes you MORE nervous! What do you do?

What does it mean if things don’t go exactly as I planned?

Have you put more pressure on this situation than necessary? Do you think it will define your character in any way if you don’t get the job? Are you worried about what your friends and family may think, rather than being focused on how you truly want to show up?

Are these beliefs ego serving in any way?

Does the word “failure” come up? Is it mostly negative-focused? Have your friends and family misjudged you before? Are you judging yourself for fear of landing outside of “perfect?”

Ideally, HOW do I want to show up?

Is it anxious and fidgety? Or calm, cool, and collected? Is it bubbly and confident? Or shy and quiet? What is the ultimate personality that needs to be displayed?

What is not serving me in this moment to perform my best and how do I let it go?

Are my previous beliefs creating an anxious environment? What affirmations can I say to cool me down? Do I have a second to meditate, or list off things I’m grateful for? Can I surrender the things that are simply out of my control?

Just performing a simple line of questioning can knock you back into reality. And if your anxiety is REALLY bad, you can always do some rounds of tapping to help open you up and put you back in a grounded state. At the end of the day, the negative self talk and damaging beliefs are merely a form of self sabotage. So how do you stop it? Well, YOU stop it!

You have complete and utter control over what your head says to you. Make it a safe haven. A sacred place. Stay calm, and stay witchy ( *)

 

 

 

ThursdayThinks: Three Ways to Live With Intention TODAY 

Living with intention is such a powerful act, but goes overlooked all the time. When our schedules change, when we’re stressed, in fact, unless everything is going perfectly, living intentionally can get pushed to the wayside.
It’s easy to meditate every morning and act with purpose when we have money in the bank, a schedule that works for us, and a roof over our head. But it’s when times are tough that living with intention is more essential than ever. Here are three ways you can inject purpose into your everyday RIGHT FRIGGIN NOW.

Wake up with a mission:

  • I like to start the mornings with a goal if I feel like I’m spiraling. In program they say “One day at a time,” and it works. Sectioning things off into a day, a minute, a second, or a task, helps things to feel less overwhelming. For example, this morning I woke up and said, “I’m going to move my body today in a way that feels good.” Because I haven’t been working out lately and have been eating crap food, I’ve gained some weight. So, by starting with something small and intentional, I can focus on how I can move my body like a Goddess all day. When we don’t pay attention, we can stomp around unknowingly, not appreciating our knees and toes for what they provide for us everyday. This mission helps to redirect the thought and insert gratitude as well.

Create an alter and pray to it:

  • In whatever capacity that means to you. I have my first success alter pictured above, with a Mojo candle by the very talented Haus of Hoodoo, and by placing things around it that scream “Success!” I have intentionally honored what it means to be successful. I wrote out a years worth of checks to myself, placed a big piece of Citrine and Fluorite around the candle, wrote myself my dream testimonial of a satisfied client (which actually manifested!) and spoke to it everyday. I acknowledged the power and meaning behind success, and building a relationship with it helped to keep the idea of “living successfully” exist in the forefront of my mind. Can you say manifestation?!

Be present:

  • This one is a little more difficult, especially if you’ve never meditated, but it is POWERFUL. I endorse this fully, in particular if you are at a job you hate, commuting in traffic, or living in a space that is uncomfortable. When you are in the uncomfortable situation, instead of fighting it, be intentionally present. Understand that this, as all things, is fleeting, and go through the motions INTENTIONALLY making the best of the situation. When you are present, instead of complaining, you can find positive solutions to make the unbearable, well, bearable. So, you hate the job, but you need it for money in the short term, right? Go in, do the job to the best of your ability (because the opposite will almost always count against you) and look for the things that make you happy there. Even if it’s just one co-worker, or the fact that you can decorate your desk, focus on what makes you happy and be PRESENT. Traffic? Take the time to listen to a podcast, some awesome music, or learn a language! Maximize that time! Living in an uncomfortable space? Well, do your best to make it comfy! Messy roommate? Have the conversation. Too little space? Get creative and decorate around the issue! There are a multitude of ways that being present can present creative solutions. Living in the muck, finding out what actually makes you unhappy and why, and being grateful for the ability to solve it will work WONDERS for your life!

Living intentionally can be done in a variety of ways, and can be super fun! But it takes dedication to do it. Once you see the way your life changes after sticking to purposeful living, you’ll never want to turn back! But remember, it’s an easy practice to forget when things aren’t going great, so remind yourself of this tool and stay witchy ( *)

WednesdayWisdoms: What Are You Grateful For?

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It is easy for us to say that we are grateful for everything we have, but what does that mean? What is everything?

If we wrap up all of the intricacies into one term labeled “everything,” we minimize some of the most important aspects in our lives. So for this weeks practice, we’re going to make a list.

I want you to start out with a list of twenty things that you are grateful for. I know that sounds like a daunting number, but once you get flowing you’ll realize you have so much you never accounted for! You can start with some big ones: the fact that you’re alive, your family, that you have two legs (if you do) just to get the ball rolling. Then, slowly, get more and more personal. Is there someone in your life that makes it better? Is there a particular family heirloom that makes you smile every morning? Do you possess a skill or trait that makes your world a better place?

I wrote my list above. Look it over and see if it brings you inspiration. Then write yours out. REALLY set time aside for it. And when you’re done, post it somewhere you will see everyday. Above the kitchen sink or bathroom mirror. Somewhere super visible. Post it with a mala or your favorite crystal. Bring some light and energy into it. The more emphasis you place on this list, and the more reminders that you have to be grateful, the less space you will have in your heart for the negative.

And you are highly encouraged to KEEP ADDING! If you think of something new to be grateful for, pop that bad boy of the list and watch it add some more shine. Sprinkle it with glitter. Kiss it with lipstick. Love that list because it makes your world great.

Stay grateful, and stay witchy ( *)

When Not Engaging is the Best Self Defense




When someone is acting childish, hurling insults, and just plain not seeing your side of the story, it’s easy to get frustrated and argue in order to “win.”
But what are you actually gaining from this behavior? Is it really worth it to throw some insults back at them? Because that almost always ends in regret.

As we see in the Five of Wands, everyone is shouting to no avail. No one wins because everyone wants to. And at the end of the day, is it about winning? Or is it about being heard?

What we should remember, instead, is to take the high road and not engage. When you do this, you’re actually forcing the person to look at their outlandish behavior, and, generally, they will shrink up and scurry away. And if this is someone worth having a discussion with, they will return once they have calmed down.

Embody the Queen of Cups and turn to compassion over reaction. Politely disengage from the argument until the other party is ready to communicate effectively. Have control over your emotions and remember that “winning” is not the desired result. Rather, showing up honestly and gracefully is the goal.

So next time a significant other is throwing a temper tantrum, or an uptight boss has a meltdown, take the high road. Not engaging in their fit will force them to see how ridiculous their actions are, and nine times out of ten they will reflect and apologize. Stay grounded, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Where Are You In Your Journey: Episode 5

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Episode 5 is live! Today I have a guest who has chosen to be anonymous. She helps to shed some light on being in an image based industry, struggles with weight as a child, and plastic surgery.

Tune in below and on iTunes ( *)