WednesdayWisdoms: Break Out of the Breakup

Breaking up is hard to do, but with these simple tactics, you can get through it so much easier. Earlier this week I talked about why letting go of heartbreak is so hard, and today I have some tips to ease the pain, including a special invite to my Masterclass starting next Tuesday. CRYING: This…

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When the Oppressed Become the Oppressor

Brought to you by another RuPaul gem, this week is all about werk, werk, werk. In some of his earlier podcast episodes, Ru talks about queens that get a slice of fame after chasing it for so long, and then start to emulate the monster celebrities that preceded them. They become hard to work with…

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Master Manipulator? Or Sad Girl?

Truth be told, I got the idea for this blog post by watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. And some of these women have supremely repressed issues that not only keep bubbling to the surface, but end up shaping their reality. And it got me thinking… are the people that we think are master manipulators, puppeteers,…

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When Compromise Becomes Compromising

There must be a theme of compromise in relationships; it is perfectly necessary when two people learn how to work together while being emotionally invested in each other. But what happens when there is only one person sacrificing? How can you measure who brings what to the table? First and foremost, I think I should…

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Codependency in a Vacuum

More than an article to provide advice, this blog post comes to you as sort of a realization piece, courtesy of my recent trip and a conversation with my sister. Hopefully this can additionally add insight to someones life who may need it, however, this is meant more to be an exercise in self exploration.…

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Love Addiction vs Codependency

While labels may seem obnoxious and confining, they can be helpful tools in figuring out where you are in your journey and how to correct what isn’t working. So lets go through and take my favorite topic and compare and contrast a love addict from a codependent. First off, love addicts and codeps share a…

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Tough News

For anyone who is in therapy, was in therapy, or is considering it, this one is for you. My first visit to my therapist during the tear down of my pivotal relationship was pretty torturous. I went in thinking that I was going to get a “yes man” who was going to agree with everything I…

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Why “Nurturing” is Not Synonymous with “Codependent”

Remember when I wrote about dichotomous thinking? Well this is a perfect example. Upright, the Empress is the pinnacle of femininity, mothering, abundance, and giving. Reversed she is codependent and blocked creatively. They are two sides of the same card, but that does not mean there isn’t  happy medium. When I started to heal from my…

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The Story of My Last Straw

When you are codependent, your happiness doesn’t belong to you. It only exists when other factors are aligned. Your happiness is dependent on a myriad of things, mostly pertaining to relationships, both romantic and not. I first met my ex boyfriend on a dating site. Being single for a very long time before meeting him,…

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A Nugget on Codependency

As an upright Queen of Cups suggest emotional stability, a reversed suggests codependency. This topic is of utmost importance to me. When the love for yourself is contingent on how much you love others, you are codependent. When you can only love yourself because of the way you love others, by putting them first and…

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