Happy New Year from WitchyWisdomsHQ!!

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Happy New Year my beautiful WitchBabes!!

This photo was taken in Berlin last New Years Eve, and I was so lucky to spend it with my sister dancing all night long to 90s American pop music. This year I was busy working, but I am grateful all the same. But it has me thinking…

The New Year has me reflecting and repurposing much of my business, Craft, and lifestyle, so get ready for some major changes happening over here!

For starters, this blog will no longer be so frequent. I honestly have begun to resent the task of sitting down and writing it, and its starting to feel forced. So, to bring the magic back to life, I’ve decided to cut back and only post on a Full Moon, so I can bring you a long reflection full of inspiration, rather than a contrived weekly post.

That being said, my email list WILL go out every Monday now, with tips, tricks, inspiration, witchy goodness, and updates! So be sure to subscribe to that so you don’t miss out.

And remember, tonight is a Super Full Moon in Cancer, with an emotional air and a powerful energy to kick off the New Year. Get your rituals ready, take out your journals, and pull some cards tonight. It should be highly insightful for your shadow self and the year to come!

To a beautiful 2018, to resting and relaxing today, and to staying witchy ( *)

 

ThursdayThinks: Ways to Exercise Boundaries in Business

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Want some tips on how to keep your personal flavor, while maintaining a business savvy?? It’s difficult to be an empath as an entrepreneur, but check out these tips to stay on top of the game!

  • Know your worth and align it in every practice: What do you think you’re ACTUALLY worth? Think about what your practice/ business affords the world, and lead with confidence around it.
  • Know when to cut the dialogue short: If you’re in the middle of being taken advantage of, in whatever the case, get yourself an exit strategy. Know how to identify when people are asking for too much (i.e. to a point of making you uncomfortable) and remember that you are allowed to not participate.
  • Set some ground rules, and don’t break ’em: It’s important to have a policy in place for your business, because when you come from an empathetic place (like I do) you want to do favors for everyone. Policies help set the standard.
  • Consistency is key: Remember when I said “don’t break ’em”? I mean it. To convey consistent policies is the only way to command respect, in your personal life AND your business.
  • Communicate effectively: Let your customers or clients know your policies in a firm manner! This can be hard for empaths, because we are sensitive ourselves, but firm (not rude!) communication is the real winner here.

Practicing these tips is not only going to help you run your business effectively, but it will amp up your energetic flow! This kind of confidence around the worth of your business will bring respectful customers and ideal clients to your doorstep! Practice carefully and stay witchy ( *)

Boundaries in Business

IMG_5186It’s one thing to invest in yourself, change your life for the better, and heal with intention. I was on that journey a few years ago and am so happy I made the decision to do so.

However, it’s an entirely different story to make this path into your business.

I’ve worked with quite a few women who signed up with me in a heartbeat and started transforming their lives in the exact same way that I did. But, what I’ve been seeing a lot of lately is the hemming and hawing of people who aren’t ready to make the leap. The questions of price and discounts and freebies. Interested parties that know they need the help but just don’t want to invest.

And, as an empath, I used to cater to these people early in my business. In fact, I have up until very recently. I used to (and still do, to some degree) understand the inability to pay for coaching or even an ebook. I remembered the excuses I used to make to get in the way of my own development, so I would I try to help people that are in the same static place that I was three years ago. But I’ve learned now that there needs to be a boundary in place to protect my light and give it to those that see the value in my work.

You see, the difference between my clients now (and me three years ago) and the girls looking for handouts, is that we knew what we needed to do to get out of our deep, dark rut, and we went for it. It wasn’t a question of price or package. It was a question of life or death.

And much like Death, we knew we had to invest a piece of ourselves for transformational change. It didn’t matter, because the value was priceless. Recently I’ve just had my own death and rebirth, in which I realized more firm boundaries need to be kept in place.

The Emperor comes to mind as I enact a more masculine flow of energy to the business side of my coaching practice. Yes, the nurturing, feminine ability I have as an empath is a beautiful gift, but when not balanced with masculine boundaries, you fall prey to those who want to take advantage of you.

So if this sounds familiar, and you, like me, are lacking clients because of your own empathy, it’s time to wake up and stand up for yourself and your business. And if you are a person who needs help but only wants it for free, realize that you’re only going to receive back what you put in, and there isn’t much reward from nothing. Invest in yourself, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Season 2: Episode 10

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Season 2, Episode 10 is live! Today’s interview is with The Spiritual Boss Lady, Miss Amanda Frances! In this episode we discuss how to break through your money blocks, harvest a soulful relationship with money, and manifest your wildest dreams!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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ThursdayThinks: Style Your Mind

IMG_4640Cara Alwill Leyba, who was a guest recently on my podcast, has a brand centered around the concept “Style Your Mind.” With a book and a podcast under this name, it got me thinking exactly what styling MY mind means to me.

So, on Monday we spoke about rerouting yourself to positivity over negativity, and I think that can be done with your own style/ identity. Which brings me to this weeks exercise, on creating a stylishly YOU avatar as a reference.

My style changes all the time, because I am constantly evolving. Sometimes I want to dress like Mama Ru in day drag and take selfies in bathroom mirrors. And sometimes I want to wear long flowing black dresses and sing Stevie Nicks under naked trees. But what stays the same for the longest is who I really want to show up as at my core.

So for this weeks exercise, I want you to create an avatar of exactly what YOUR style is and how to honor that with your  mindset.

What do I mean by this?

Let’s start superficially. What does your ideal you look like? What does she wear? Is her hair pulled back taut and strong, or free flowing and long? What is her first impression?

Next, what does your ideal you sound like? Does she have a strong voice? Does she ask questions? Does she sit back and observe? What is her presence??

Next, what does she do? Does she have a kick ass career? Is she an artist? Is she both? Does she play in the park? Does she drink daytime champagne? What is she all about?

And lastly, what is her thought process? Is she super ambitious? Or is she a self care queen? Is she in the middle? Does she honor all of her thoughts equally? Or does she have down days where she needs to recover? Does she speak 7 languages? Is she a taxidermy expert? What goes on in her brain??

When you do this exercise, you’re going to carve out someone to use as a benchmark that is uniquely your idol. There is no perfection. There is only perfectly YOU. And when you have a day where you feel lost, or when you feel out of control, you can say, “What would avatar Shawn do in this instance?”

Its a fun exercise, and you can even make a symbol for her and write her everywhere as a reminder. Get creative, dream big, and stay witchy ( *)

Season 2 Episode 3

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Season 2, Episode 3 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with soul-recovery coach, Jennifer Pennington! We talk about creativity in the destruction of what doesn’t serve you and dancing every day! Find her on Instagram or on her Facebook!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Season 2 Episode 2

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Season 2, Episode 2 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with creativity coach and inspiration for women in mid-life, Sue Lyon-Myrick! We talk about finding your passion after children and using a smart phone camera to capture daily inspiration. Find her on Instagram under @suelyonmyrick_creative or through her program the Reignite Your Life E-Course!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Where Are You In Your Journey Season 2!!

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Season 2, Episode 1 is live! In this interview, I get acquainted with life coach and body posi queen Rachel Spencer! We talk about injecting creativity into your business, using Instagram authentically, and seeing art everywhere. Find her on instagram under @mylifecoachrachel or at MyLifeCoachRachel.com

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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WednesdayWisdoms: Crafting a Baseline Routine

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Brought to you by a small bout of anxiety and depression, here is your WednesdayWisdoms exercise for the week!

Last post I fessed up about over-doing it on vacation and the spiral it led me down as a result. And under further investigation, I found that it is because I’ve strayed from my baseline routine.

There are certain things in everyone’s life that bring them joy and order. And when you abandon all of that for a certain length of time, you begin to float around in a sea of worry, not really realizing where you are in the ocean. And that’s because you pulled up your anchor.

Now the beauty of that, is that once you realize you’ve been floating aimlessly and that’s why you feel like shit, you can always drop anchor again! Now, what makes your anchor so sturdy?

For me, if I don’t have a steady diet, exercise, and meditation, I will go nuts. I will literally run off of the rails. And it’s very easily explainable. I don’t have proper nutrients to fuel my body, so I’m tired and feel gross, which means I don’t exercise. If I don’t exercise, I don’t get any endorphins, so I’m unhappy. And when I don’t meditate, I don’t clear a space in my head for my thoughts to pass through and it all becomes a screaming mess.

There are additional things, too. Like if I go too long without listening to an uplifting podcast (What’s the Tee with RuPaul and Michelle Visage and Your Kick Ass Life with Andrea Owen are my faves) or singing at the top of my lungs, I peter out as well.

So this week, I want you to observe your routine. What is it that maintains balance in your life? Is the morning cup of coffee from your Keurig an absolute staple? What about midday yoga? A certain TV show before you fall asleep? What brings happiness and order into your life?

Start naming these things and hold them at the highest importance. These are your new non-negotiables. No clients before coffee. No emails once you’ve turned on Golden Girls. Do not let these snippets of joy be compromised by anyone or anything. They are your baseline. They are your anchor.

So next time you feel an energy shift, do a check in with your routine. Have you been neglecting the things that provide order and happiness? Keep it together and stay witchy ( *)

WednesdayWisdoms: Dealing with a Dictator

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Are you dealing with a high strung manager that won’t get off your back? Try these tips to keep yourself sane under all of the harsh treatment.

1. Remember that they are under A LOT of pressure.

Most likely, if your manager is coming down on you hard for something, it is because they are under direct order to do so. Their delivery might be harsh, because they aren’t too versed in how to communicate, but they are only doing their job. This understanding might help you to just let it go.

2. Breathe

It is really easy to fire back with a response, start to tear up, or shake with anger (whatever your chosen method is) when faced with someone who is a condescending prick. But if you remember to take three deep, long inhales before responding, and slightly meditate on, or at least remind yourself of, the first tip, the whole world starts to feel bigger than just that interaction.

3. Just say yes

This was a huge one for me to learn. I love to have a comeback and an answer, but in all honesty, you need to save yourself the exhaustion. Just agree with your boss. If it’s a deadline that you can’t possibly make because of all of your other work, then speak up in a polite manner, but if it’s anything trivial, just say yes. You don’t even have to do it (haha don’t tell them I told you that.) Sometimes, bosses just need to say something to remind themselves they are the boss. And if you just nod in agreement, they’ll walk away feeling great and you can go on doing your job as well as you always do.

4. Remember the BIG picture

Are you truly happy at this job, despite your boss? Do you like your coworkers, the work you produce, and your hours? Is the pay good? Is the commute worth it? Think of this tip like you think of finding an ideal mate. Tick off all of the must haves, the “great if it did” haves, and the “could do without”s. Is this job meeting your standards? Or are you convincing yourself that you’re happy because you don’t know anything else? Ask the big questions before continuing to put up with a sour asshole who’s bad at communication.

I hope these help you in your future work endeavors. Working for someone else is not easy, but neither is owning a business. Neither is sitting still forever. It all takes work. Just remember to ask yourself what will make you the most happy. Stay witchy ( *)