ThursdayThinks: Separating Fantasy from Reality (a Checklist)

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Going along with Monday’s theme of separating reality from your beliefs, I thought I’d create a checklist of questions to ask yourself when faced with such a dilemma. How do you know when you’re seeing things as they are, or merely dancing with the proverbial pink elephant?

It’s helpful to do a line of investigation when anxiety builds. Am I anxious because of the actual situation? Or because of a set of beliefs I’ve built AROUND the situation? Follow these questions the next time you’re faced with that unsavory anxiety and see if it doesn’t shed some light on your feelings around it. Let’s take going on a job interview, for example:

Ok, so you’re nervous about your big interview. So nervous that it might get in the way of success, which makes you MORE nervous! What do you do?

What does it mean if things don’t go exactly as I planned?

Have you put more pressure on this situation than necessary? Do you think it will define your character in any way if you don’t get the job? Are you worried about what your friends and family may think, rather than being focused on how you truly want to show up?

Are these beliefs ego serving in any way?

Does the word “failure” come up? Is it mostly negative-focused? Have your friends and family misjudged you before? Are you judging yourself for fear of landing outside of “perfect?”

Ideally, HOW do I want to show up?

Is it anxious and fidgety? Or calm, cool, and collected? Is it bubbly and confident? Or shy and quiet? What is the ultimate personality that needs to be displayed?

What is not serving me in this moment to perform my best and how do I let it go?

Are my previous beliefs creating an anxious environment? What affirmations can I say to cool me down? Do I have a second to meditate, or list off things I’m grateful for? Can I surrender the things that are simply out of my control?

Just performing a simple line of questioning can knock you back into reality. And if your anxiety is REALLY bad, you can always do some rounds of tapping to help open you up and put you back in a grounded state. At the end of the day, the negative self talk and damaging beliefs are merely a form of self sabotage. So how do you stop it? Well, YOU stop it!

You have complete and utter control over what your head says to you. Make it a safe haven. A sacred place. Stay calm, and stay witchy ( *)

 

 

 

ThursdayThinks: Three Ways to Live With Intention TODAY 

Living with intention is such a powerful act, but goes overlooked all the time. When our schedules change, when we’re stressed, in fact, unless everything is going perfectly, living intentionally can get pushed to the wayside.
It’s easy to meditate every morning and act with purpose when we have money in the bank, a schedule that works for us, and a roof over our head. But it’s when times are tough that living with intention is more essential than ever. Here are three ways you can inject purpose into your everyday RIGHT FRIGGIN NOW.

Wake up with a mission:

  • I like to start the mornings with a goal if I feel like I’m spiraling. In program they say “One day at a time,” and it works. Sectioning things off into a day, a minute, a second, or a task, helps things to feel less overwhelming. For example, this morning I woke up and said, “I’m going to move my body today in a way that feels good.” Because I haven’t been working out lately and have been eating crap food, I’ve gained some weight. So, by starting with something small and intentional, I can focus on how I can move my body like a Goddess all day. When we don’t pay attention, we can stomp around unknowingly, not appreciating our knees and toes for what they provide for us everyday. This mission helps to redirect the thought and insert gratitude as well.

Create an alter and pray to it:

  • In whatever capacity that means to you. I have my first success alter pictured above, with a Mojo candle by the very talented Haus of Hoodoo, and by placing things around it that scream “Success!” I have intentionally honored what it means to be successful. I wrote out a years worth of checks to myself, placed a big piece of Citrine and Fluorite around the candle, wrote myself my dream testimonial of a satisfied client (which actually manifested!) and spoke to it everyday. I acknowledged the power and meaning behind success, and building a relationship with it helped to keep the idea of “living successfully” exist in the forefront of my mind. Can you say manifestation?!

Be present:

  • This one is a little more difficult, especially if you’ve never meditated, but it is POWERFUL. I endorse this fully, in particular if you are at a job you hate, commuting in traffic, or living in a space that is uncomfortable. When you are in the uncomfortable situation, instead of fighting it, be intentionally present. Understand that this, as all things, is fleeting, and go through the motions INTENTIONALLY making the best of the situation. When you are present, instead of complaining, you can find positive solutions to make the unbearable, well, bearable. So, you hate the job, but you need it for money in the short term, right? Go in, do the job to the best of your ability (because the opposite will almost always count against you) and look for the things that make you happy there. Even if it’s just one co-worker, or the fact that you can decorate your desk, focus on what makes you happy and be PRESENT. Traffic? Take the time to listen to a podcast, some awesome music, or learn a language! Maximize that time! Living in an uncomfortable space? Well, do your best to make it comfy! Messy roommate? Have the conversation. Too little space? Get creative and decorate around the issue! There are a multitude of ways that being present can present creative solutions. Living in the muck, finding out what actually makes you unhappy and why, and being grateful for the ability to solve it will work WONDERS for your life!

Living intentionally can be done in a variety of ways, and can be super fun! But it takes dedication to do it. Once you see the way your life changes after sticking to purposeful living, you’ll never want to turn back! But remember, it’s an easy practice to forget when things aren’t going great, so remind yourself of this tool and stay witchy ( *)

ThursdayThinks: Practicing Surrender to Get What You Want

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(FYI, exercises are coming on Thursdays now ( *))

On Monday we talked a bit about how the need for control can actually be getting in your own way in terms of manifestation. So, how do we step out of the way? How do we surrender?

Well, it’s definitely a work in progress, but the very first thing you can do is try to find out where your control stems from. Make a list of all of your beliefs surrounding money and do some digging around them.

For example, your list could look like this:

  • I never have enough money
  • Money is the root of all evil
  • I have to fight everyday so I am not poor

These beliefs could breed some powerful actions that will tell the Universe to go “Fuck off,” and the Universe doesn’t really like that. So, you perpetuate a sense of poverty.

If you believe you never have enough money, there is a lack of gratitude. That is a huge block. So, the solution? Thank the universe for what you DO have everyday. Write a gratitude list. Make it a part of your routine.

If you believe money is inherently “bad,” you’re creating a block around it to protect yourself. Instead of becoming “evil,” you’ve placed a limit around yourself for the amount of money you’ll ever make. To combat this, you’ll need to start searching for the good in money. It is just a tool after all. It doesn’t make people evil; it’s just a resource. Try to research some top philanthropists to prove it to yourself 🙂 Just look at what Bill Gates is doing!

And finally, if you feel that you have to fight for survival, then you WILL fight for survival. Making the act of earning money into a battle isn’t serving you. The best way to start breaking down this belief is to create a budget. Now you’ll know exactly what you need to make for any given day, month, week, etc. And when you work to earn this amount, make it FUN and be grateful you even have the opportunity to hustle! Once you reframe your ideas around money from battle to banquet, the Universe will answer.

These are just a few ways you can start to break down your money blocks. Pay attention to every thought and every action. It is important to be conscious when trying to manifest. Get wealthy and stay witchy ( *)

Why My Rituals Are So Powerful (and Why You Need Them in Your Life!)

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Practicing intentional symbolic action takes place all over the world at any given time and creates a directed energy that is palpable. Think of the National Anthem at the Super Bowl. That’s a ritual that Americans practice every year and you can actually feel the vibrations coursing through the stadium, and even the living room you’re watching in with a chicken wing in hand. Ritual work is incredibly moving, literally anyone can do it, and utilizing the power of Full and New Moons magnifies the strength of the energy.

But why is it so powerful? What makes this kind of practice work?

  1. Setting a directed intention:
    • When you focus on something, you give it power. And ritual work is no exception. The moon cycle is a great time to set and harvest intentions, and when you really want to achieve or heal something, this is a sacred time and space to be able to do so. All of the thought and energy you pour into what you truly desire will be amplified by this magical work. This is why it feels so great to act it out!
  2. Meditation:
    • Whether you’re using a crystal, the flame of the candle, or simply sitting still, incorporating meditation into ritual work helps to open the third eye and allows us to receive messages. It clears space in our head away from the chaos and allows a mystical energy to flow through. Envisioning yourself lighter or enveloped by a color or aura helps to open certain chakras and foster alignment.
  3. Symbolism:
    • Gathering things that represent the fruition of your intention gives it power as well. If you seek to be more grounded, collecting stones and things of the earth help to place that idea in the forefront. It makes it tangible.
  4. Journaling:
    • Like many witches, I use journaling in my rituals. Coming into a meditative state and free flowing words with which I hold in my subconscious helps to bring them to light. The act of physically writing down my dreams and intentions helps to purposefully put them out into the universe. And as far as manifestation goes, it really works.

These are elements that I use in all of my rituals, and I have gotten rave reviews from every client that has used them. The rewards received from completing a ritual have been an incredible uplifting feeling, clarity, mindfulness, grounding energy, alignment and more. Usually they cost 50$ per ritual, but right now I have a subscription package that costs 1$ per ritual for an entire year. That is a one time payment of 24$ to have a Full and New Moon ritual right in your inbox 1-2 days before each cycle. That is so much value for the price of a couple of Starbucks coffees.

Grab it here, get your ritual on, and stay witchy ( *)

A Simple Alignment Meditation

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Alright, so you’ve been feeling out of whack. You blame it on alignment. So now what?

A really simple way to wake up your chakras is by meditation and focusing on each center of energy. Remember, energy healing is a very careful practice, so if your misalignment comes from a trauma that has affected your feeling of safety, this meditation may not entirely work for you. It can’t hurt though, so feel free to give it a whirl!

Starting by completely lying down, hands by your side, in what Yogis call “corpse pose.” Center yourself and get to a place of relaxation and peace. Clear your mind and try to let your thoughts drift away.

Then, once you feel centered, bring your attention to each chakra, starting from your crown moving all the way down to your root. There are seven (crown, third eye, throat, heart, solar plexus, sacral, and root.) Be sure to be patient with each, and envision the energy as a ball of light in their specified color.

Take your time to notice what the ball of energy looks like. Are there some that are brighter than others? If so, focus your attention on those that are more dim, and try to work with them until their light becomes vibrant. Focus on them and breathe energy deeply into the power center.

Once you have all of your chakras emitting about the same amount of energy, picture all seven lighting up on your body at once. Feel exactly what it is like to be in alignment, and  breathe steadily, but powerfully, in and out.

When you are ready, flutter open your eyes. You should feel more energized after this meditation to go about your day.

After your meditation, take note of which chakras seemed to be more difficult to work with. Is your heart not cooperating? Is your sacral sleeping? Take note of what needs work and do specific meditations and crystal work to help bring these chakras out of a dormant state. Get meditating and stay witchy ( *)

Abundant Universe Experiment

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This is a super fun, super wild exercise brought to you from the New York Times bestseller, E squared. It is FUCKING AMAZING what your mind can accomplish when you  simply just pay attention,

Alright, so all this experiment takes is 48 hours and an open mind. That’s it.

Now what I want you to do, is to pick an arbitrary object. Like butterflies or yellow flowers or white feathers. Anything that your little heart desires. It can even mean something to you, or be an idea like “love.”

Now, for the next 48 hours I want you to KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN and look for this object or evidence to support this idea. Here’s an example:

If you chose to look for Love, keep a record of everything that you see in 48 hours that supports Love. Hearts on a little girls sweater. An old couple holding hands. A young couple cuddling on the subway. Red roses. Anything that supports the idea of love gets written down.

Wanted to stick with something more simple? Let’s say you chose yellow flowers. Those could be found growing as weeds out of cracked cement, on a floor length skirt, on a plastic umbrella, or in a commercial.

The point is, pick something, anything, and just keep your eyes peeled for it over the next 48 hours. Let the universe prove to you that it will show you what you are looking for. When the 48 hours are up, look at your tally and be prepared to be amazed.

Get on it and stay witchy ( *)

 

Eliminating Shame from Sexuality

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When there is shame surrounding a topic, it takes something that should be beautiful and makes it seedy. It strips away all of the magic. It creates a dark air around it. And this is just as true for sex as any other taboo subject.

So, what can we do to eliminate the shame surrounding sex? How can we embrace our sexuality and live as sacred sexual beings day to day? Follow these tips to replace shame with confidence:

  1. Watch porn that suits you: 
    • A lot of the reason why people feel shame around sex is because they can’t relate themselves to feeling sexy. It’s almost as if it’s off limits because they subconsciously can’t see themselves as deserving. If this is part of your problem, I suggest watching porn with people that look like you that do what you like. There is so much on the internet with people of all colors, sexual preferences, body types, etc, that empowers the art of pleasure on every conceivable level. Watching realistic porn, instead of overly aggressive porn-star-porn, might help to add an inclusionary ideal to your own sex life.
  2. When appropriate, talk about it:
    • There’s nothing that takes the air out of a shame-tire like plain old words. Start talking about sex freely. Ask your girlfriends what their experiences are like. Ask your partner what they enjoy between the sheets. Open the dialogue and ask questions. Secrets are the main food source for shame, so take away it’s meal plan and start talking about it!
  3. Masterbate:
    • Getting acquainted with your body and learning what sets you on fire is a great way to eliminate shame. Our bodies are wired to react a certain way to stimulation. It’s natural! So learn what get’s you off and be proud of it!
  4. Confront what makes you uncomfortable: 
    • Do you shudder when you hear the word “vagina?” Do you want to run and hide at the idea of anal? What makes you want to duck for cover? Start taking note of your reactions to sex-related things and then do your research. I find that the more educated you are on a subject, the more comfortable you’ll feel about it.
  5. Allow yourself to feel sexy:
    • Dressing sexy is a big thing for me. I feel empowered when I can flaunt my sexuality and own it. However, that may be too bold for some. In that case, there are a myriad of more subtle approaches. Wear a new shade of lipstick, challenge yourself to wear a pair of heels, or sport some lingerie under your jeans and t-shirt. There are many undercover ways to embrace your inner goddess, and implementing them into your daily life will start to push shame out of the way.

Follow these tips at your own pace and you will start to see a shift from guilt to acceptance. Sex is a natural and beautiful thing, and as long as you do it with respect and consent, there is nothing to be ashamed of! Get your sexy on and stay witchy ( *)