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Sacred Saturday Video Series Episode 24

Results Driven? Or Consequence Driven? Happy Saturday!   Are you chasing results or fearing the worst? Let’s use positive reframing to put in a positive spin!

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Your Insignificance is Your Ticket to Freedom Happy Saturday! Enjoy this video on how to keep focus!!

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January Money ‘Scopes

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January Money ‘Scopes by Jasmine Wolfe

Aries

With your ruling planet Mars moving into fellow fire sign Sagittarius on the 3rd of the month you’ll find that both your passion projects and the arguments you engage in will flow with wild creativity. Remember, fire can be either healing or destructive depending on the situation. The second eclipse of the season falls on the 10th with the Cancer Full Moon, and as with any lunar eclipse, this is going to be an active call to change. Something outside of your control, pertaining to your Cancer ruled house, will push you to behave in new ways. The infamous Saturn Pluto conjunction in Capricorn takes place on the 12th. This is a deep call towards inner transformation, one in which you will be required to act upon. It may not look like much on the outside, but it will feel like your mind and spirit are being tuned like a guitar. Mercury, the planet of communication and travel, moves into forward thinking Aquarius on the 16th. An opportunity to work with a new group of people will fall into your lap during this transit. The Aquarius New Moon is on the 24th and this will likely feel more like how New Years is supposed to feel, fresh and full of energy.  A new vision for 2020 is laid out before you; all you need to do is walk the path.

Taurus

Usually one to think before you act, Mars moving into Sagittarius on the 3rd of the month has you jumping to action more frequently, especially in regards to the matters of your Sagittarius ruled house. Use this energy to accomplish something big in Capricorn season. The Full Moon in Cancer on the 10th ends the current eclipse season. Something inside of you will shift, and an opportunity to release old grudges or pain is presented to you. Don’t resist it. Uranus stations direct on the 11th and this might feel jarring at first, especially after eclipse season, but in the days afterwards you’ll receive a download about a radical new way to call in more money to your life. Oh but the journey isn’t over because Saturn and Pluto meet up in the sky on the 12th! For Taurus’ this may feel like a rollercoaster, are you going up the hill or rapidly down?  Either way, you’re going somewhere. Venus moves into cosmic Pisces on the 13th and you may feel inclined to spend more during this transit, especially when it comes to food, booze, and crystals. The month ends with a New Moon in Aquarius on the 24th. This New Moon wants you to step outside of your comfort zone and act in the name of grand change.

Gemini

You’ll have to make a decision soon in regards to travel or education with Mars moving into your opposing sign on the 3rd. When in doubt, listen to you inner Sag and just do it! The 7th and 8th prove to be lucky days for you, so if you need some extra confidence to see something through, plan to execute on those days. Venus, the planet of beauty and money, moves into slippery Pisces on the 13th which is not the best omen for your wallet. Just be aware of the fact that you’re likely to share some wealth with people who won’t pay it back nor pay it forward during this transit. Mercury moves into Aquarius on the 16th, and during its time in the forward thinking air sign, your powers of observation will be on point! This is the time to learn from others, collaborate with people you admire, and build your brand’s community (if that’s applicable). The New Moon in Aquarius is on the 24th and since the moon is in an air sign you can expect things to move quickly. Don’t be afraid to say yes to something that scares you a little. Unless that thing is jumping off a bridge, then just say maybe.

Cancer

The second week of the month is going to be a doozy, but don’t let any astrologers (or would be astrologers) fool you; this is going to be exactly what you need to reorient and tune in to your higher self. Hello, manifestation! Hello, aligned business! Hello, prosperity! The Full Moon in Cancer, along with the lunar eclipse, is on the 10th. An emotional block you have in your life, work, or love is going to see a real world purge. This could be a breakup of sorts; a necessary one. The next day Uranus stations direct in Taurus, and you may not feel its energy at first, but over the next few months you’ll be restructuring yourself from the inside out. Then on the 12th will be the Saturn Pluto conjunction in your polar sign, Capricorn. A decision must be made today.  Hopefully the decision you made was financially sound, because with Venus moving into Pisces on the 13th we’re all likely to be spending more than we save. With the New Moon in Aquarius on the 24th you’ll be better able to handle problems and situations creatively. Call in creative solutions to the grander issues of your life, but first, what are the grander issues of your life?

Leo

Leos tend to be in positions of power. So, if you fall under that umbrella of existence, please be conscious of the fact that when Mars moves into Sagittarius on the 3rd you’re far more likely to get into a heated debate about politics, philosophy, or whatever Sagittarius rules over in your chart. Speak your truth but recognize that people are really listening. Eclipse season culminates with the Cancer Full Moon/ Lunar Eclipse on the 10th. An emotional outburst from you, or those around you, will lead you to an unexpectedly opportune place. Uranus stations direct in Taurus on the 11th and in the coming weeks or months you can expect to receive a jarring download about restructuring the path you have planned ahead of you. It may be jarring but that doesn’t mean it isn’t right. With Venus moving into Pisces on the 13th you’re more likely to overspend on spiritual help such as crystal jewelry or a charlatan palm reader. The Aquarius New Moon is on the 24th and this energy is good for calling things in that require an out of the box line of thinking. You may have to act quickly on an opportunity that day.

Virgo

From the 10th through the 13th we’ve got a lot of movement in the stars. As above, so below. It all starts with the Full Moon in Cancer and the Lunar Eclipse on the 10th. The energy is good for creating an opportunity for yourself; use personal stories and heartfelt words to manifest it. The next day, on the 11th, Uranus stations direct in Taurus and in the days afterwards you’ll find that the blockages in your determination will lift and your 5 year plan will be clearer than ever. On the 12th we have the wrongly feared Saturn-Pluto conjunction in Capricorn. For you this may feel like a gift, like things are finally falling into place- a nice, orderly, organized place. As Venus moves through Pisces, starting on the 13th, you will eventually have to put your foot down on a financial matter where you are being taken advantage of. Make the decision that’s in your best interest! The Aquarius New Moon is on the 24th and this will be a good time for you to release a fixed mindset by talking to someone, or multiple someones, who have a different world view than you.

Libra

Standing up for whom and what you believe in opens new door ways for you after Mars moves into Sagittarius on the 3rd. You’ll be pushed to deal with an issue at home or with your family on the 10th with the Lunar Eclipse on the Full Moon in Cancer. This issue requires you to pause and put yourself in the other person’s position in order to find a solution. On the 12th Saturn and Pluto will meet up in the sky ever so nicely. The impact of this will by strongly felt by you since they’re both in fellow cardinal sign Capricorn. Expect to get a sober look at your life and where it’s going; restructure anything that isn’t going to work for you in 2020. When Venus moves into Pisces the next day, your usually loose means of spending your money becomes all too apparent, but you’re likely to be too hard on yourself about it. Just learn your lesson and move on. The month ends with a New Moon in Aquarius. This is a beautiful opportunity to get a better understanding of your emotional nature. The blockages in your heart will momentarily be gone.

Scorpio

Eclipse season ends on the 10th with a Lunar Eclipse on the Cancer Full Moon. Take a sick day at work to deal with the deep emotions you will be met with on that day. Old childhood wounds are likely to rise to the surface and you need space to process them. On the next day, the 11th, Uranus stations direct. You probably won’t feel anything on the 11th aside from a strange longing, but in the days and weeks that follow you will have to make a decision regarding your boundaries with work. Make the choice that supports your higher self and greater health. On the 13th Venus moves into passionate Pisces and this is actually great news for you! People are looking to spend money and will therefore be naturally inclined to invest in you, your business, your life, etc. Mercury moves into Aquarius on the 16th which pushes you to be much more direct with your words. And then we have an Aquarius New Moon on the 24th to round out the month. This New Moon is a break from the heavier emotions you’ve waded through this month. From this more analytical place you’ll be able to call in a clear picture of the year ahead.

Sagittarius

You’re more brilliant, more engaging, more distracted, and more likely to get into a fight over politics or philosophy with Mars moving into your sign on the 3rd. Your optimistic and endlessly curious mind will shine throughout this transit, so be sure to write down all those ideas that pop into your head! The eclipse season ends on the 10th with a Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon in Cancer. You’ll soften under this moon, making it much easier to release any resentments from childhood or ancestral traumas. Believe me, you won’t need them going into 2020. As far as money goes, with Venus moving into Pisces on the 13th you can expect to gain money and spend it just as quickly. Money comes, money goes-that’s your homeostasis for the month ahead. Mercury moving into Aquarius on the 16th is lucky for you Sagittarius babes because it’s likely that an opportunity to write, speak, or share your niche knowledge with others will fall into your lap during this transit. Fire and air signs have a unique type of extra sensory perception which will be enhanced for you on the Aquarius New Moon on the 24th. Use this sensitive energy to get a glimpse into what the rest of your year entails.

Capricorn

This winter eclipse season culminates on the 10th with a lunar eclipse on the Cancer Full Moon! Someone is going to say or do something that triggers a deep emotional wound inside of you. You get to decide: lash out or open up about your fears and worries. Even the most open of Capricorns still has unexpressed layers of emotionality. You’ve been sitting with some new ideas for your career or business for a few months now, and with Uranus stationing direct in fellow earth sign Taurus on the 11th, everything is either going to fall into place in the first half of 2020 or fall apart. If it falls apart it just means that there was more work that needed to be done. On the 12th we have the dreaded Saturn-Pluto conjunction in Capricorn, but really, this is nothing new to you. “Oh, this is a time of deep emotional restructuring? Sounds like a regular Tuesday.” What I’m saying is, you’ve got this. When Venus moves into Pisces on the 13th you’ll want to create a clear vision of how you plan to increase your income because, in slippery Pisces, money is likely to walk itself right out of your bank account. However, the 5 or so weeks Venus will be in Pisces is a great time for you to create opportunities for financial gain, you just have to put in the work.

Aquarius

Speak upon your knowledge as Mars beings its two month transit in Sagittarius on the 3rd. Don’t be surprised when an opportunity falls into your lap after standing up on a soapbox and telling it like it is. Your knowledge on astrology, politics, social issues, or climate change is needed. Your innate feminine energy will be running the show on the 10th with the Lunar Eclipse/ Full Moon in Cancer. Trust your inner voice and make a choice completely from intuition on that day. Uranus stations direct in Taurus on the 11th and you might not feel this energy instantly, but a series of events will pop up seemingly out of nowhere. These events will pertain to your Taurus-ruled house and will push you to create an unbreakable stability there. Mercury moves into Aquarius on the 16th which enhances your nerd brain. Write down all the brilliant flashes of ideas that pop into your head so that you can come back to them when you’re ready to act upon them. The Aquarius New Moon is on the 24th, so if there are any blank spots or question marks in your future sight ask your spirit guides, angels, or ancestors for a message tonight.

Pisces

Over the next two months, with Mars in Sagittarius starting on the 3rd of the month, an event of sorts will push you to share and express an idea that’s been stuck in your head for a while. This idea is more brilliant than you believe it to be, but people want more. A matter with your family or home life is going to culminate on the 10th with the Full Moon in Cancer and Lunar Eclipse. You have an opportunity to speak from the heart or say something you don’t actually mean. Remember that this eclipse season is a continuation of a long cycle, are you ready to break the cycle?  Venus moves into Pisces on the 13th which can be a less than affluent transit for many, but not for you! If you are an artist, creative, or work in a creative field, this is going to be a great time to create and make sales. Seriously, put your art out there, people want to give you their money right now! The Aquarius New Moon is on the 24th and this is a “make your own luck” kinda moon. Think about something you’d like to see happen in the near future, visualize every aspect of it, feel what it feels like for this to happen, and then watch as it unfolds shortly thereafter in your waking life.


Screen Shot 2019-02-22 at 11.48.35 AMJasmine is an intuitive tarot reader, numerologist, and esoteric blogger living and worshipping the sun in California. Between typos and curse words she makes spirituality digestible to the modern world. In her work she strives to inspire defiant self love by serving it with a side of sass.

Find her on Instagram @satin.saturn

New Year New Sobriety

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So I wasn’t entirely sure if I wanted to post this, but I decided to go ahead and say “Fuck it.”

There were a variety of reasons why I wanted to keep quiet about my sobriety. The biggest being that it’s only been about two months since I quit drinking, and a little voice in my head said “Wait until at least 6 months so you know you can stick with this.”

A bigger voice said “Believe in yourself.”

Quitting drinking was something I had explored in my head countless times. I have had a DUI in the past, before I turned 21, and it was clear that I wasn’t treating alcohol recreationally. However, because of my age, I distanced myself from that idea because “That’s just what you do in your 20’s.”

I grew up in a big drinking family, so alcohol has always been even more normalized to me than even society made it. It’s just what you did. You get home from work, make a drink. Had a bad day? Make a drink. Had a great day? Make two!

You know how it goes.

In addition, I worked in restaurants since I was 13. I’ve always been surrounded by alcohol, and the line between recreational use and being a straight up drunk was always “seeing double” -level blurred.

Oh, and did I mention I have addiction in my past? Being a former meth addict who quit cold turkey was quite an accomplishment, but even in recent podcast interviews I’ve explained that jumping from meth to eating disorders to men was just replacing one addiction for another.

And I just never realized how much alcohol was added into that equation.

Sure, I knew my habit wasn’t great, and I always had a deep sinking feeling that I wasn’t treating it the same as other people, but that didn’t start to become clear until much later.

Like 2019 later.

This year was really complicated. I had multiple failed relationships, my business hit me in the face a few times. I gained weight. And my depression spiked like crazy.

From the beginning of the year I had a few thoughts about slowing down. I loved going out by myself; it was the main way for me to meet men and socialize and I couldn’t accept the idea of never drinking again. I had this fantasy of me stopping at 3 drinks and going home feeling glamourous. Just fully having it all.

Yet all year I faced blackouts, got sloppy, and dealt with problems in my relationships in ways I just wasn’t proud of.

Not to say that any of these relationships should or would have worked out, nor do I pine for them. They were all lessons, and honestly had I not pressed the gas pedal so hard while drunk-dating they probably wouldn’t have escalated at all because I could recognize the red flags. But instead of avoiding a dead end relationship, or even talking about issues in a calm manner, I would end up getting frustrated, get drunk, yell incoherently, and end the relationship.

Not the classiest move. Especially not three times in a row. 

But I digress.

My final relationship of 2019 is one I’m probably most grateful for. I dated a bartender for a couple months, and we drank HEAVILY. I was drinking like a sailor most nights of the week, and I was seeing pieces of my business disintegrate. I could feel myself losing control.

When I finally ended it in a drunken tirade, I leaned into the idea that alcohol just wasn’t for me. I went back to my fantasy, where I could put a strict cap on my drinks for the night, and call it a day.

My family was supposed to come for my birthday, so I couldn’t start then.

Then it was my actual birthday. So I couldn’t start then.

Then it was Halloween. Duh.

And finally I decided that Sunday was the day. Something went off in my head and said “Shawn, if you can successfully drink 3 drinks today and go home, you can do this. But if not, you’re quitting for good.”

And I ended up drinking until 2 am.

Monday morning, tired and hungover, I downloaded a sobriety app, and I haven’t had a drink since. 

And again, a tinge over a month may not seem like much, but during these 45 days I’ve saved $1814.96 in going out, not to mention countless drunk ubers and hangover food.

I’ve also lost weight and gained strength because I have ENERGY.

And I’ve had my most successful month of business yet.

Wanna know what I call that? Alignment, mutha fucka.

And truthfully, this has been surprisingly easy for me to do. I don’t want to stand here on my pedestal and say quitting drinking is a piece of cake- I played mind games with myself for a decade before I pulled the trigger.

But once I made the decision every piece has fallen into place. I can FEEL the universe backing me. I have only positives. And here’s the kicker:

I don’t have shame. No guilt. I don’t drive myself into an anxious frenzy thinking about what I may or may not have said or done, or how a person perceived me when I was 5 Negronis in.

I wake up early and go to bed at 10 sleeping through the night like an angel. My anxiety has almost disappeared. I get to explore things in therapy that don’t stem from dumb decisions I made. 

I eliminated a huge toxin from my life and it feels RIGHT.

Weirdly enough, I’ve encountered so many more sober people through this decision. Which, again, goes to show how the universe throws people in your way that are aligned with your path/ vision.

This decision has instilled an immense clarity that my clients are feeling. I am able to be so present in a way that I couldn’t before. Not that I wasn’t always a kick ass coach, but this is a whole new level. Boss Mystic 2.0

I’ve also seen that my tolerance for bullshit is waaaaay lower than I had previously thought. I don’t enjoy a lot of things I thought I did because I’m not drinking. Funny how that works, isn’t it?

Like when people talk about stupid bullshit. Now that I don’t have a glass of Bordeaux, I just say no to hanging out. My boundaries have been reinforced with steel beams and I feel unstoppable.

I also enjoy my own company so much more. I am an aggressive person by nature *queue my success in business* so I’ve engaged in activities that compliment that. Boxing and spin have been incredibly meditative and have increased my focus.

My biggest hangup was the social aspect, which is why it took me so long to actually quit. I was afraid I wouldn’t have any friends, I’d never be able to date, and I’d stick out at events. But honestly, it’s so freeing to be able to enjoy a coffee or seltzer out and leave early. I still do all the things I used to, I’m just more present, clear, and I look better (not a hot ass mess.)

I go to coffee shops and work, and then I window shop. I still take myself to lunch or dinner, but instead of 10 cocktails till close, I have a coffee, mocktail, or lacroix, and go home guilt free to do some skin care and sit pantsless on my couch, enjoying the amount of money and empty calories I’ve saved.

It’s the best decision I’ve ever made for myself, and even though I quit during the holidays, it has felt so effortless because I KNOW in my bones this is the path for me.

If you’ve ever thought to yourself that you might have a problem with drinking, or that you want to try a dry week or month, give it a shot! It’s different for everyone, but give yourself the gift of the challenge. If I can do it, you certainly can to.

There’s only positives to look forward to!

Are you struggling with drinking? Have you been trying to quit? Here is a list of resources:

The app I use to track days, calories, dollars, etc. is NoMo. Seeing the tangible savings has helped immensely.

Use code WITCHY at tonicvibes.com for 10% off CBD products if you use alcohol to self medicate (as I did.)

Use this URL to get one free week of therapy if you need the extra guidance: BetterHelp.com/witchy

Sacred Saturday Video Series Episode 17

Impulse Control Have an issue with jumping the gun? Enjoy this video!  

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