ThursdayThinks: Ways to Exercise Boundaries in Business

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Want some tips on how to keep your personal flavor, while maintaining a business savvy?? It’s difficult to be an empath as an entrepreneur, but check out these tips to stay on top of the game!

  • Know your worth and align it in every practice: What do you think you’re ACTUALLY worth? Think about what your practice/ business affords the world, and lead with confidence around it.
  • Know when to cut the dialogue short: If you’re in the middle of being taken advantage of, in whatever the case, get yourself an exit strategy. Know how to identify when people are asking for too much (i.e. to a point of making you uncomfortable) and remember that you are allowed to not participate.
  • Set some ground rules, and don’t break ’em: It’s important to have a policy in place for your business, because when you come from an empathetic place (like I do) you want to do favors for everyone. Policies help set the standard.
  • Consistency is key: Remember when I said “don’t break ’em”? I mean it. To convey consistent policies is the only way to command respect, in your personal life AND your business.
  • Communicate effectively: Let your customers or clients know your policies in a firm manner! This can be hard for empaths, because we are sensitive ourselves, but firm (not rude!) communication is the real winner here.

Practicing these tips is not only going to help you run your business effectively, but it will amp up your energetic flow! This kind of confidence around the worth of your business will bring respectful customers and ideal clients to your doorstep! Practice carefully and stay witchy ( *)

Boundaries in Business

IMG_5186It’s one thing to invest in yourself, change your life for the better, and heal with intention. I was on that journey a few years ago and am so happy I made the decision to do so.

However, it’s an entirely different story to make this path into your business.

I’ve worked with quite a few women who signed up with me in a heartbeat and started transforming their lives in the exact same way that I did. But, what I’ve been seeing a lot of lately is the hemming and hawing of people who aren’t ready to make the leap. The questions of price and discounts and freebies. Interested parties that know they need the help but just don’t want to invest.

And, as an empath, I used to cater to these people early in my business. In fact, I have up until very recently. I used to (and still do, to some degree) understand the inability to pay for coaching or even an ebook. I remembered the excuses I used to make to get in the way of my own development, so I would I try to help people that are in the same static place that I was three years ago. But I’ve learned now that there needs to be a boundary in place to protect my light and give it to those that see the value in my work.

You see, the difference between my clients now (and me three years ago) and the girls looking for handouts, is that we knew what we needed to do to get out of our deep, dark rut, and we went for it. It wasn’t a question of price or package. It was a question of life or death.

And much like Death, we knew we had to invest a piece of ourselves for transformational change. It didn’t matter, because the value was priceless. Recently I’ve just had my own death and rebirth, in which I realized more firm boundaries need to be kept in place.

The Emperor comes to mind as I enact a more masculine flow of energy to the business side of my coaching practice. Yes, the nurturing, feminine ability I have as an empath is a beautiful gift, but when not balanced with masculine boundaries, you fall prey to those who want to take advantage of you.

So if this sounds familiar, and you, like me, are lacking clients because of your own empathy, it’s time to wake up and stand up for yourself and your business. And if you are a person who needs help but only wants it for free, realize that you’re only going to receive back what you put in, and there isn’t much reward from nothing. Invest in yourself, and stay witchy ( *)

 

ThursdayThinks: Tips to Enjoy Life and Not Take Shit So Seriously

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Life is full of reasons to keep us down, and we have a tendency to focus on them. But when we do, we don’t take into account all of the reasons why life is a damn party! Enjoying life is the best way to recognize (and then achieve!) abundance. So next time you’re in a rut, use these tips to shake up your routine and make life a parade!

  • Have a dance party in the morning
  • Do something out of your comfort zone (like going to a rooftop pool party in a unicorn floaty!)
  • Sing REALLY loud
  • Walk down the street like it’s a catwalk
  • Make a power party playlist
  • Tell riddles/ jokes to your co-workers
  • Take up a new activity you’ve always wanted to try
  • Get creative with your food!
  • Volunteer at an animal shelter (and pet all the kitties!)
  • Paint or tie dye
  • Pick flowers and wear them in your hair
  • Glitter eyeliner!
  • Make a YouTube channel with a friend
  • Light incense and breathe deeply
  • When you walk down the street, pick a color to find and make a game of it (i.e., how many shades of pink can you find?)

Try these tips to keep life light and exuberant, because it is!!! When you enjoy life’s many pleasures, you raise your vibration, and who doesn’t love that! Party on and stay witchy ( *)

Sunshine on a Cloudy Day

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Why so serious?

Aside from clinical depression and anxiety, running around life can cause a myriad of stresses, from money, work, family, love, health… shit, even which cat food brand to buy can be stressful!

Unfortunately, stress is a big manifestation killer. So, how do we minimize stress and maximize enjoyment?

Lately I’ve been wondering about this myself, because my schedule has consisted of working from home, working at my side hustle, sleep, and repeat. It’s starting to affect my mood, and when that happens, I’m pretty sharp at taking notice.

So, recently I’ve been trying to figure out what I can do to inject some happiness when I’m feeling stuck. Like, when I’m working away and feeling uninspired, I think, “How can I feel better right now?”

And usually it’s putting on some Ke$ha and taking a dance break.

If I’m stuck in my side hustle and can’t seem to shake the frustration and anger, I list the things that make me happy in my head. If it’s real bad, I run to the bathroom and tap or meditate for a few minutes until I can get back to baseline. Or, I even tell a joke to a coworker, even if I’m not feeling it, just to see their reaction.

These small practices bring The Sun into my life and help it to shine a little brighter. It helps me to have a little fun and not take life so seriously. Taking everything so damn seriously will drive you crazy! And there’s always a way to let brightness in through the clouds that you deem so important.

Use the Four of Wands to remind you to celebrate! You’ve got a beating heart and a brain in your head, so use them to make life the party that it is! You might feel beaten down, run over, and overwhelmed, but honey, it just DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THAT WAY.

So, what makes you happy? When do you feel your most fulfilled? And how can you lighten the mood? Get thinking and stay witchy ( *)

 

Season 2: Episode 12

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Season 2, Episode 12 is live! And this is the last episode of the season!!!!!!!

I’m coming to you solo today to discuss creatively switching up your thought process and how it can lead to successful manifestation. I thought it would be a great way to tie up the season, and I even have a surprise announcement at the end of the episode!

Listen up and stay witchy ( *)

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Tune in below and on iTunes, and be sure to subscribe and leave a rating!!! ( *)

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ThursdayThinks: Navigating Family Through the Holidays

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It’s no secret that family knows how to push your buttons. And when they’re all gathered in one place, asking you the same drilling questions or making remarks that are unfair, it could make you want to lash out, drink heavily, or leave.

During this holiday season, use these tips to navigate a family get-together in a peaceful,  copacetic way. It doesn’t have to be a disaster if you’re prepared!

  • Get a buddy- Ok so there’s at least one family member you ADORE right? Make it a point to stick with them, and minimize time with those family members you know will cause a headache.
  • Make yourself useful– Helping out in the kitchen not only makes you look good, but gives you an excuse to busy yourself when you don’t want to answer why you’re not married yet. Being of service to your family while staying out of pressuring conversations is a great way to navigate Thanksgiving dinner.
  • Write a script– If you know there are certain questions coming your way, be prepared with some stock answers so you can be polite, but also not feel overwhelmed.
  • Set boundaries– Following suit, find an exit strategy. When the questions get too drilling and you start to feel bad about yourself, find a way to politely and discreetly exit the conversation with a few things you’ve prepared, like “Oh, there’s Aunt Blanche, I haven’t said hello to her yet!” or “I should really help Dorothy in the kitchen,” or “Rose, I heard you remodeled, would you give me a tour!”
  • Be grateful you have them– This last one is the most important. It’s easy to get annoyed and overwhelmed by family, but the holidays are for being thankful that they exist in the first place. Yes, they might drive you a little nuts, but each one of them has contributed to your life in one way or another, and it would serve you to not only be patient, but grateful.

So, this holiday season, be merry, be prepared, and stay witchy ( *)

 

Family and Putting Your Best Foot Forward

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I feel like when it comes to family, we tend to be more sensitive and lash out further than we would with anyone else. We know these people inside and out, and we’re comfortable with them. So when they do something that hurts us, we can act out in ways that we wouldn’t with anyone else.

It’s almost as if we know too much. We couldn’t assume with others as we can with family, because we’ve seen it all before. There is so much history to draw from, that whatever shit they pull can be traced back to a similar scenario. And the vulnerability factor is just so much greater when it’s a person you’re THAT close to. It’s enough to make you crazy!

When conflict arises, as in the Five of Wands, things can get a little testy and, since we know each other so well, we can say hurtful things to bring our family member to the level of hurt that we’re feeling. Conflict and tension arise and we say things that we’ll later regret.

Which can lead to the loose ends in the Five of Swords. Storming away after conflict will lead to a lack of closure, and can almost be worse than hurling insults. Not talking can sting even worse than sharp words. It feels like betrayal.

So, the moral of the story is to really try with family. Because the emotional stakes are so high, its imperative to put your best foot forward and rise above the pettiness. Reaching out in a calm manner that describes how you feel and clarifies your emotions is far more constructive than screaming and insulting. Your family might know how to push your buttons, but a hasty reaction can lead to an even worse feeling. Dealing with family isn’t always easy, but they’re yours. It’s best to just take a deep breath, sort your emotions out clearly, and approach a situation with a level head. Get calm, and stay witchy ( *)