Cara Alwill Leyba, who was a guest recently on my podcast, has a brand centered around the concept “Style Your Mind.” With a book and a podcast under this name, it got me thinking exactly what styling MY mind means to me.
So, on Monday we spoke about rerouting yourself to positivity over negativity, and I think that can be done with your own style/ identity. Which brings me to this weeks exercise, on creating a stylishly YOU avatar as a reference.
My style changes all the time, because I am constantly evolving. Sometimes I want to dress like Mama Ru in day drag and take selfies in bathroom mirrors. And sometimes I want to wear long flowing black dresses and sing Stevie Nicks under naked trees. But what stays the same for the longest is who I really want to show up as at my core.
So for this weeks exercise, I want you to create an avatar of exactly what YOUR style is and how to honor that with your mindset.
What do I mean by this?
Let’s start superficially. What does your ideal you look like? What does she wear? Is her hair pulled back taut and strong, or free flowing and long? What is her first impression?
Next, what does your ideal you sound like? Does she have a strong voice? Does she ask questions? Does she sit back and observe? What is her presence??
Next, what does she do? Does she have a kick ass career? Is she an artist? Is she both? Does she play in the park? Does she drink daytime champagne? What is she all about?
And lastly, what is her thought process? Is she super ambitious? Or is she a self care queen? Is she in the middle? Does she honor all of her thoughts equally? Or does she have down days where she needs to recover? Does she speak 7 languages? Is she a taxidermy expert? What goes on in her brain??
When you do this exercise, you’re going to carve out someone to use as a benchmark that is uniquely your idol. There is no perfection. There is only perfectly YOU. And when you have a day where you feel lost, or when you feel out of control, you can say, “What would avatar Shawn do in this instance?”
Its a fun exercise, and you can even make a symbol for her and write her everywhere as a reminder. Get creative, dream big, and stay witchy ( *)