Reaching Out vs. Attention Seeking

As someone who previously felt shame in asking for help, I have a lot of experience in this area. I used to think that if I couldn’t conquer something on my own, I was a failure. And not even just day to day tasks. In fact, I would internalize my emotional problems to the point…

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WednesdayWisdoms: Break Out of the Breakup

Breaking up is hard to do, but with these simple tactics, you can get through it so much easier. Earlier this week I talked about why letting go of heartbreak is so hard, and today I have some tips to ease the pain, including a special invite to my Masterclass starting next Tuesday. CRYING: This…

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Letting Go of Heartbreak

When love ends, there is always an undeniable hurt. Even if you’re the one doing the ending, there is still an unshakable sadness. On the one hand, you don’t have the person around that you spent so much time with anymore. and on the other, there’s just plain disappointment. I think the biggest reason why…

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WednesdayWisdoms: Self-Forgiveness Ritual

On Monday, we spoke about forgiveness and spirituality when it comes to trauma. But instead of focusing on forgiving who harmed us, I think it’s more important that we forgive ourselves for the emotions we feel as we go through the healing process. It was not the clothes you were wearing, how much you drank,…

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Spirituality and Sexual Assault: The Literal Mind Fuck

Kristen Johnston was recently on my favorite podcast (you guessed it, What’s the Tee?) and she mentioned an article by Nancy Colier. In this article, titled “Letting Go of Toxic People: When Staying in it is Not More Spiritual,” she details the immense pressure we put on ourselves to be open and forgiving to those that…

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WednesdayWisdoms: Crafting a Baseline Routine

Brought to you by a small bout of anxiety and depression, here is your WednesdayWisdoms exercise for the week! Last post I fessed up about over-doing it on vacation and the spiral it led me down as a result. And under further investigation, I found that it is because I’ve strayed from my baseline routine.…

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Taking a Vacation from Self Help

The title of this post is not an endorsement, nor is it something I intended to do. But, let’s face it, this work is a 24/7/365 JOB. Even as someone who has made this into my line of work and the source of my creativity, I must make a constant, valiant effort to keep it…

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WednesdayWisdoms: Dealing with a Dictator

  Are you dealing with a high strung manager that won’t get off your back? Try these tips to keep yourself sane under all of the harsh treatment. 1. Remember that they are under A LOT of pressure. Most likely, if your manager is coming down on you hard for something, it is because they…

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When the Oppressed Become the Oppressor

Brought to you by another RuPaul gem, this week is all about werk, werk, werk. In some of his earlier podcast episodes, Ru talks about queens that get a slice of fame after chasing it for so long, and then start to emulate the monster celebrities that preceded them. They become hard to work with…

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