WednesdayWisdoms: Reigniting the Fire

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In order to find our Starchild again, we have to do some soul searching. My go-to is journaling, because it lays down all of my thoughts on paper and I am able to see clearly what my jumbled brain is trying to tell me.

For this week’s exercise, you’re going to journal about your young life:

  1. Write your biography from when your active memory starts to about grade school. Describe yourself and the stories you have from childhood.
  2. Then re-write it, keeping your self and your personality in tact, but changing the situations and relationships you wish you could.
  3. Take all of the situations that you wish could have been different, write them down on a separate piece of paper, and forgive them. Burn them. Let them go. They may have had a hand in shaping your belief system, but it is time to release them now. They do not serve you, nor do they control you.
  4. Do something this week that you would do when you were five. Go to a magic show, roll around on the grass, sing at the top of your lungs, whatever sets your young heart on fire.

 

Live young, live free, and stay witchy ( *)

Losing Your Starchild

I see this happen in women of every age. Myself, not so long ago, included. When we’ve lost what makes us happy, we become shells.

When you’re a child, you breeze through life with an extreme approach. Everything is pure whimsy, or complete destruction. Because you don’t know anything else.

And as we grow older, we start to collect ideas, values, and stories that shape our behavior. Rather than banging on a bunch of pots and pans in public, we don’t because we know it to be “rude.”

But sometimes, banging on pots and pans is necessary. If you love to sing, and don’t because you “can’t,” you’ll start to feel a growing emptiness inside. You’re punishing yourself for something you made up. And it’s literally as easy as turning on the Chicago soundtrack and belting out All That Jazz in your mirror (I did that last night ;))

I talked to a client yesterday and she said she doesn’t know what she loves anymore. She doesn’t know what flexes her creative muscles and sets her soul on fire. And while, yes, this is heartbreaking, I told her it didn’t have to stay this way. It’s just going to take some time to uncover her Starchild again and dust her off.  And let me tell you, it’s worth it.

If I never did the work to find my authentic, shiny little Starchild, I would have never started a blog, nor have created this company in which I help women. I would still be feeling empty, dating the wrong men, picking the wrong jobs, and blaming it all on my bad luck. And let me tell you, suppressing your authentic self in order to do what you “should” and not make any waves in order to keep people liking you is EXHAUSTING.

I needed the message of the Hermit reversed, which asks you to look deep inside and find your inner voice. To find the laughing little girl that has been silenced by years of conditioning. I needed to give her a megaphone.

I needed to let her sing like the 6 of Cups suggests, pointing to your inner child and asking you to express childlike joy. And I’ll make one thing clear: it is hard and scary and uncomfortable at first. It almost feels wrong, because for decades that is what you’ve been telling yourself. But, girl, once you find your rhythm, it is pure magick from there on out.

So if you’ve been feeling unfulfilled as of late, start thinking about your personality as a five year old. Were you loud and brazen? Shy and creative? A mixture of both? Think back to childhood, stay tuned for more on Wednesday, and stay witchy ( *)

Surprise Post! New Moon in Gemini Ritual Findings 

Generally I don’t like to share the specifics of my rituals or personal readings, because they are just that: personal.

But what happened last night was so profound that I had to share with my readers. I feel cleansed. And I feel light.

I also wanted to share my method in my own tarot readings. I know a lot of you are aspiring readers and I thought my vulnerability may shed some insight on how to most authentically read for yourselves and others.

Ok, so let’s start with the ritual…

…Last night was a New Moon in Gemini. Energies were chatty, collaborative, and forgiving of your inner twin. Coupled with the cleansing power of a New Moon, which is ripe for intention setting, we had quite a night last night.

My ritual consisted of saging the air, charging my crystals, lighting a white candle for purity, and getting busy.

In my notebook I purged everything that had been plaguing me. I won’t get into it too deep, but there were roots to my writers block and recent emotional state. Through stream of consciousness under a New Moon, I got EVERYTHING OUT.

Then I went through a round of tapping. I’m currently working on getting my certification, but for anyone who wants to just understand the basics, this is a pretty good link. I might write about it in a later post, myself.

Anyways, in order for the tapping to work, I addressed the emotional root of my writers block and did multiple rounds of tapping while sage smoke surrounded my body and the candle flickered past my closed eyelids. After about three rounds I started to cry and I felt more free than a bird in the sky.

I then held my rose quartz to my heart and repeated a mantra three times, one that was very specific to the root of my pain. I envisioned pink light enveloping my body and shooting out through my fingers and toes. I fluttered open my eyes and the room had a pink glow. There was unconditional love there and I felt it.

I also want to mention a note here: I do not subscribe to a “you must do this, this and this” strict type of ritual setting. I think certain rituals work for certain people, and you must do what is appropriate for your state. This is why I create personalized rituals for all of my clients. But I digress.

Beyond the obvious magic that was happening, I knew it was time to pull out my cards and perform the spread I had created and shared on Instagram.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My usual process comes from a burning feeling in my palms. I’ll shuffle the cards like a poker player, then cut them and shuffle them more traditionally. I’ll repeat this until I feel a hot sensation connecting from my hands to the cards, cut the deck where I feel the heat, and lay out all of the cards that are on top. For this spread there were six.

My deepest desire was the Star, a card of hope, renewal, and inspiration. Ok well duh. Who doesn’t want that??

I dug a little further though and found that this was going to be a career based reading. I so badly want my business to flourish so I can reach as many women as possible, and my deepest desire is to maintain my inspiration, inspire hope, and reinvent as many times as necessary to stay fresh and relatable.

What must I release to manifest this desire? Well, what a surprise, the Hierophant reversed. This card tells me that the fear of challenging the status quo should be left far behind, for this career path needs trailblazers and innovators to stand out. Having already known that, and trying to practice it (with a few blunders along the way) I had a solidified message.

How can I accept the help of others to achieve it? The Knight of Cups! The card shook me by the shoulders and said, “darling, use your charm, wit, and imagination to get people on your side!”

I feel that this side of me comes out in my writing for the most part, but I do see myself censoring certain topics because of how it will be viewed. This card told me to let that go.

What should I keep my eyes open for? The Two of Swords, which is indicative of a choice to be made. The imagery suggests that the woman is blindfolded to all of the options, and is thus telling me I should not be hasty and explore all possibilities before jumping in headfirst (which I tend to do.)

What should not hold such importance is the Fool reversed. This card suggests foolishness and reckless behavior. I took this to mean that going out and spending money should be kept to a minimum, because growing my business is essential right now.

Finally, what power can I harness to activate my intentions? The Nine of Cups, which is a card of comfort, happiness and satisfaction. This card spoke to me in the way of gratitude; I am comfortable and happy, and should be satisfied with what I have. The constant want for more may hold me back, and I need to find a balance between chasing the dream and appreciating the fruits of my labor.

So all in all, this was a positive spread, but also pointed me in the direction of a healthy and balanced lifestyle. I tend to live in extremes, and this spread in particular told me to slow down and focus.

My biggest tip for those of you starting out, who are afraid of large spreads, is to focus on one card at a time. Listen to what your gut is telling you, not what the internet is telling you. And then let the cards create a story. When you link together individual messages, you’ll create an entire synopsis of your days ahead.

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Keep practicing and stay witchy ( *)

 

 

WednesdayWisdoms: Sex Magick

Brought to you by popular demand: your very own, beginners, sex magic ritual!

Ok, so first things first, if you are looking to be more sexy, have better sex, or have a lot of sex, this is not where you need to be. Sex magick is a form of manifestation.

Sex and orgasms are energy, and this post will teach you how to harness that energy for greatness. This kind of energy is super powerful and works especially well on a full moon.

Alright, so here go the basics:

Step one is figuring out what you want to manifest. Get really specific about the thing you want most in life. Write it out and charge it with an intention. You have to give energy to receive.

Then we’re going to assign this object a symbol of some sort. You can make your own, or attribute a picture to it. Make sure it is visible in your minds eye.

And now for the fun part! Either by yourself, or with a partner, it’s time to get busy 😉 Build yourself up slowly so you can release as much energy as possible.

Finally, when you are just about to climax, hold the image you wish to manifest in your minds eye. Hold it there steady and clearly while you orgasm. This flow of energy will charge the manifestation and make your wish cum true!

Sex magick for beginners is not only quite simple, but very powerful. Full moon energy, helps to enrich the manifestation, but is not necessary. Be free to practice as much as you like, but remember, if you get greedy and start manifesting everything, you might create an energy shift you won’t be happy with. Work on one thing at a time, give thanks to the moon, and stay witchy ( *)

Why Your Sexual Fruit is Sacred, but There’s No Shame in Sharing Some of the Juice 


My relationship with sex has been a complicated one. It must have started out with the pressure of losing my virginity, because I slept with a boyfriend of four days “just to get it over with.” This kind of set the pace for devaluing my body, and I didn’t even know the power and sacredness of my sexuality.

It also didn’t help that I caught that boyfriend cheating on me with his neighbor. This incident created a haphazard idea of sex. That it just didn’t matter.

The road became more and more cluttered when I realized that I so desperately wanted, NEEDED, male attention. I was craving love of any kind, so I would drunkenly throw myself at men and then become puzzled as to why they weren’t in love with me. Like, why isn’t this like in the movies???

Further down the line, I would try to pretend that my unsuccessful tactics, and the inevitable outcomes, didn’t bother me. I was just going to Samantha Jones myself through life and hope someone respected me along the way. But sex or not, I didn’t respect myself. See whats wrong with this picture?

Then, as you know, I was raped. What a freakin doozey that was in my sexual landscape. That turned everything upside down, flipped it, and reversed it (thanks Missy.) Now fear was a factor. How was I supposed to land a man if I couldn’t let him touch me?

And lo and behold, who is there to pop up? But my infamous ex. I felt comfortable around him, got drunk, and took him home on the first night. He stayed for the next three days. And rather than questioning if he should be at his job, I let our insecurities click and the rest is history.

So all of this leading up to my turning point was synonymous with the message of The Devil. I was ruled by obsession and trauma, rather than intuition, respect, and just plain logic. I gave away the whole fruit and couldn’t satisfy myself.

Nowadays it’s a whole different ballgame. I have done the work and thoroughly respect my body, but let’s be honest, we all need a little pleasure in our lives. I do not want a relationship right now, but I’m not above a hookup. The difference here is that I understand what I want, I communicate effectively with a potential partner, we are both 100% consenting, and there is no grey area of sadness and depression.

The Lovers describes a union and an alignment of values. That is the important part, and what I was missing the whole time. Trying to drunkenly (and half-assededly I might add) seduce a man into loving me and then cry when he doesn’t is idiotic. Being up front about what you need in a partner and seeing if your values align gives you a choice, and if you choose to give your body over to someone who doesn’t want what you want, you’re putting yourself in a compromising position. You’re setting yourself up for hurt. And to do it over and over and over again expecting different results is insane. You gotta revolutionize your sexy little world to find that happiness. Cuz it’s hiding on the other side of the bed.

Sex might be a plush display of love in a steamy relationship, or a taboo icon that is used for selling t-shirts and hamburgers, but it is also a necessary way of life. Sex is sacred, yes, but it is also fun and pleasurable and NATURAL. You don’t have to wear a chastity belt for the rest of your life in order to protect yourself. You just have to get to the root of your needs. If your needs consist of a sweet and quick release, then by all means sugar, get yours (while staying safe.) And if your needs consist of a relationship, get to dating! Communicate that you are looking for a partner and don’t settle for less. You can’t change his mind with sex. It has never happened and never will. Align your values before you get busy.

So sex wisely, my kittens. You’re worthy of a good time. Just be sure you protect your heart first, and stay witchy ( *)

Where Are You in Your Journey: Episode 12

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Episode 12 is live! In this short, solo episode I do a quick wrap-up, highlighting key themes and similarities between my interviewees this season. I won’t be returning the podcast until September, so until then you can find archived posts here. I’m dedicating this summer to focus my attention on my clients and my upcoming book, so in the meantime, stay witchy ( *)

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WednesdayWisdoms: Dream Journaling


Do you have recurring dreams? Or do you just want some more insight into what your mind is trying to tell you?

Buy a pretty dream book and let’s get journaling!

I like to keep crystals and a dream journal on my night stand. I suggest that if you have recurring dreams you should, too. Having your dream journal handy when you wake up is essential for remembering what you dreamt.

Write down every single detail you can remember. Don’t worry about making sense of it now, just write it down.

Try to write a summary of the dream the best you can. Writing a storyline can also help you to figure out exactly what’s going on in there.

Once you’ve written down everything you can remember, I suggest just putting the book down until you have a weeks worth of dreams. Then the fun starts.

When you have a weeks worth, try to connect the dots. Is someone wearing a specific color? What do you associate that color with? Is someone saying something to you? What did they say? Can you see faces? Try to pick out themes from these observations.

Remember, dreams don’t have specific meanings. Your dream is like your own made up universe: you have created all of the language and metaphors. So if you look up in a dream book what a bridge means, it won’t mean the same thing to you, because that author hasn’t lived your life and collected your memories. This is an exercise in authenticity.

So what did you find? Did you explain some unexplainables? Or is there more exploring to do? If you need a helping hand and can’t figure out what your brain is trying to tell you, let me help you. Otherwise, keep journaling and stay witchy ( *)